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[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by OTW

It's customary for alums to get solicitations from their collegiate chapters whenever they need assistance. I've seen alums donate $$$ to help pay to fix leaky roofs, furnish the study room, etc. etc.

I know that $$$ doesn't guarantee her daughter a bid, but still. If Mean Girl was the real reason her daughter didn't get a bid, then well -- I'd be pissed off too.

I'm sorry, but it should. I'm all about that. Seriously.

Originally Posted by Senusret I

I'm sorry, but it should. I'm all about that. Seriously.

Oh you know I was speaking objectively!

I'm sure that, in certain chapters of our fine organizations, $$$ does guarantee your legacy bid.

But that's for a whole 'nother thread.

[cuteASAbug]

what the hell is with everyone referring to their daughters as D? is there some kind of secret greekchat dictionary that I don't get/know about?

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

what the hell is with everyone referring to their daughters as D? is there some kind of secret greekchat dictionary that I don't get/know about?

If people typed out Daughter all the time, that would be too confusing on everyone -- DUH!!!!

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

what the hell is with everyone referring to their daughters as D? is there some kind of secret greekchat dictionary that I don't get/know about?

I know. It's annoying as hell, isn't it?

It's like they refer to their daughters as 'D' on another online message board, and then some asshat decides to tell those people about GreekChat then they invade here like crazy! Oh wait...

[patiently waits for the crazy recruitments to be over so that GC can attempt to be normal again]

Originally Posted by GatorMom

This will pass, but after 30 years I am no longer proud to be a KD.

Wow. Harsh words, but I don't blame you for feeling this way.

[tennesseemom]

Originally Posted by GatorMom

So how does one deal with the legacy factor when it has been talked about with your daughters for years? My daughter just rushed at my own alma mater where I have been a lifelong supporter. One girl that we knew pledged there last year who was always competing with my D in sports. She was a very spiteful girl. So of course you guessed it, she kept my daughter out of MY chapter, a double legacy who's cousin, (my niece) was past president!!! Of course I can list all her incredible accomplishments, athletic, brains and beauty combined, but it doesn't matter now. What a slap in the face.... My daughter did find another house she liked and pledged and is handling it much better than I am. The next solicitation letter I receive is going to have some very choice words for them to chew on. And my second daughter is so livid she said she won't even speak to anyone there when she rushes next year. This will pass, but after 30 years I am no longer proud to be a KD.

Mean girl needs to be prayed for, because her issues of spite go far deeper than sorority. this is a valuable lesson of maturity for your daughter and you, and I think your D is in the right spot. Be a proud donator to your D's new chapter!

[adpiucf]

GatorMom, I'm sorry things did not work out with your daughter's legacy chapter. One of my friends experienced this when she rushed at UF several years ago. She was dropped by her legacy, but had a wonderful experience as a sister of another chapter. Mom was upset about it at the time, but her other children pledged her legacy, the elder sister was happy, the younger were happy and life continued for all-- mom was involved with supporting both chapters after the hurt feelings went away.

Please remember that the members of the chapter who are there now are not the same ladies you pledged with. This does not mean they're not a great chapter, but your daughter found the place that was right for her, and I hope she will enjoy her new sisterhood as much as you enjoyed yours. Please don't let this sour you on the school or the Greek System (or the chapter!) that brought you so much happiness when you were her age.

Go Gators! (I can officially say that now that I've been a UF grad student for one week...)

[Zillini]

Gatormom, that must have been an incredibly difficult experience for your daughter and especially for you. But as was said earlier, money doesn't guarantee a bid. If it did then in fact we alums would be guilty of buying our children's friends. With that being said though, if there was 1 mean girl who purposely blocked your daughter then that's not fair either. Had this situation occurred in my Chapter, I hope I would have looked into what was going on. If the Chapter wants to release the legacy of a valued and generous alum, I would want to make sure there was more "cause" than 1 mean girl's personal vendetta.

But at this point there is nothing that can be done. I am happy your daughter found a home elsewhere. My advice is the next time your Chapter solicits you for donations you should respond with a polite note saying you have donated to your sorority's national philanthropy as you feel your money would be more useful there.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by Zillini

Gatormom, that must have been an incredibly difficult experience for your daughter and especially for you. But as was said earlier, money doesn't guarantee a bid. If it did then in fact we alums would be guilty of buying our children's friends. With that being said though, if there was 1 mean girl who purposely blocked your daughter then that's not fair either. Had this situation occurred in my Chapter, I hope I would have looked into what was going on. If the Chapter wants to release the legacy of a valued and generous alum, I would want to make sure there was more "cause" than 1 mean girl's personal vendetta.

But at this point there is nothing that can be done. I am happy your daughter found a home elsewhere. My advice is the next time your Chapter solicits you for donations you should respond with a polite note saying you have donated to your sorority's national philanthropy as you feel your money would be more useful there.

Maybe it's because she directly mentions KD by name, but I'm not so sure about her post. There has been such an influx of "bitter mommies" the past few weeks, that it is hard to know who to take seriously.

My quick thoughts:
I would like to know how this fly-by-night poster came to know how and why her daughter was cut? How does she know it was this girl? Wonder if her daughter cut KD and was too afraid to tell her mom the truth (which, judging from the mom's bitterness I wouldn't be surprised if she was scared of her mom)? Maybe her daughter isn't as perfect as she thinks? UF has a ton of legacies that rush, it is a very competitive greek school with a lot of very strong chapters. Legacies have to be cut sometimes. None of us know for certain what happened, bitter mom doesn't know for certain.

But I agree with the above posters about the "D" crap and I can't wait to see these college confidential helicopter moms fly far far away. Let your kids live their own life and deal with their own problems. You posting on a message board about it is just embarassing them to death.