Bid day "Mismatch"

augreekmom · #16 08-15-2007, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by cluelessUGAmom

My daughter does not see herself at her 3rd choice at all. From Day 1 she did not feel the connection but just like Auburn mom's daughter said, she kept being told how happy they would be to have her. She really never understood why since the conversations were not very stimulating.

Well it came time today to complete the pref card and with advice of go ahead and put them down, you can always drop before initiation, she went ahead and put them down as #3.

She is soooo worried now because if she doesn't get either # 1 or # 2 she would rather go into COB because there were many others she liked better than her #3 today. I truly wish she was not given the "drop before initiation" advice today. If she left it off her list then another girl could technically get that spot. If she declines the bid then the house could pick up someone in COB but my daughter would be out of COB.

I pray tonight that she gets #1 or #2 as she would be happy at both and does not even have to be in the same situation as AuburnMom's daughter as my heart would also ache.

I am so proud of Auburn Mom's daughter for taking initiative with her house and looking to start an intramural team!

I will pray for your daughter as well. I hope she doesn't have to go through the self-doubt and confusion this brings when it doesn't work out well. It hurts immensely when there isn't anything we as parents can do to console such hurt feelings. Just when I think mine is feeling a little better, she hears about another girl she knows that did get into her #1 and once again can't shake the feeling that she did something wrong or wasn't good enough. I may be wrong but I am not sure why the girls list their preferences. Somehow I'm not sure they have much of a choice really unless you have the right connections whether through recs, legacy or personal connections regardless of what is on their resume. I still pray this works out. She told me this afternoon if it didn't that she would never put herself through this again.