How do you respond....

[ljkelly]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

I'm always very careful about that. Since I came in through an alumni chapter, I am mostly around grad chapter ladies. And you never know how or when someone was brought in, so I wait for the woman to call me frat first before I call her soror. Last thing I want is to be clowned by an old soror.

I'm also the same way about hugging AKAs I don't know. I ALWAYS extend my hand first. Sometimes the ladies will look at me with the screw face and say "We fam, fam hugs!" But I know my frat be getting their grope on sometimes, so I make sure to err on the side of a gentleman.

Yes, you do have a point. I am in a grad chapter now and none of the older Sorors (we have some OLD Sorors) call Alphas Frat, but some of the younger Sorors do...maybe it is a generational thing.

All the undergraduate Alphas in the chapter of at my school use to and still say Soror but my BF who is from that chapter will not. He is very anal about keeping the two orgs very separate. It took him a year before we could get the combo keychain!

[lovelyivy84]

I like the AKA/Alpha bond too, although I can do without the groping, lol. I don't address just any Alpha that way though- I have to like you or have a good feeling about you.

I have heard a lot of Eastern stars refer to their sistars, but soror is a new one.

[SKEEphistAKAte]

Originally Posted by ljkelly

All the Alphas I know call me "Soror" and all the AKAs I know call Alphas "Frat"...I didn't know that was different in different places.

Most of the Alphas I know either say "Sis" or "Baby Sis". Sometimes there will be an occasional "soror" but it seems odd for a dude to be saying "soror". I usually refer to Alphas as "Pham".

[Steeltrap]

Originally Posted by ljkelly

All the Alphas I know call me "Soror" and all the AKAs I know call Alphas "Frat"...I didn't know that was different in different places.

I am often called "Soror" by Alphas, and I don't mind it at all.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by SKEEphistAKAte

Sometimes there will be an occasional "soror" but it seems odd for a dude to be saying "soror".

That is basically how I feel. I don't think anything is wrong with it, but it just seems a little odd to me.

[Wonderful1908]

We called Alphas frat and they called us sorors, I work with an Alpha and he calls me soror and I call him frat, thats how it was at my HBCU.

We also usually in Pan-Hel meeting would refer to people in other organizations as soror in the third person.

[shuwun11]

I agree with you Sistar, we don't call each other Sorors.

[ljkelly]

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

We also usually in Pan-Hel meeting would refer to people in other organizations as soror in the third person.

I don't understand... Soror, can you give an example?

[shuwun11]

Hey, how are doing? I was responding to one of my Eastern Star Sistars, I thought it would have showed it. I was saying that I never heard of a Eastern Star sister calling a member of a sorority a soror. We don't even call each other sorors.

[Professor]

I had opportunity to meet Sister White last year in DC. My chapter brother asked her about the appropriateness of calling AKAs sorors. Sister White stated it was protocol but only men of Alpha Phi Alpha should call the women of Alpha Kappa Alpha sorors.

In NC Alphas and AKAs refer to each other as frat and soror. Unless I'm very close to an AKA, in public I often say this my sister. However, if someone asks me if I know xyz I do say she is my soror. Ultimately, I guess it is a regional thing. In fact, during my travels many sisters through up the pinkie and if I'm not focusing I will only smile and say hello which is most of the time. However, I will display the alpha sign when I'm relaxed.

[Wonderful1908]

Originally Posted by ljkelly

I don't understand... Soror, can you give an example?

Hmm for example the national president of Zeta Phi Beta worked on our campus whenI was in school, so if we were in Pan-hel meeting we might say their president "Soror Carpenter", maybe it was just SU? We did not use it often but sometimes in cases like that we would.

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

Hmm for example the national president of Zeta Phi Beta worked on our campus whenI was in school, so if we were in Pan-hel meeting we might say their president "Soror Carpenter", maybe it was just SU? We did not use it often but sometimes in cases like that we would.

Although I was not in the NPHC as an undergrad, the same applied there at public events. For example, at the annual "Meet the Greeks" everyone on the program was given the title "Soror" or "Frater."

[ljkelly]

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

Hmm for example the national president of Zeta Phi Beta worked on our campus whenI was in school, so if we were in Pan-hel meeting we might say their president "Soror Carpenter", maybe it was just SU? We did not use it often but sometimes in cases like that we would.

Interesting, thanks.

[faireststar]

Originally Posted by gamma_girl52

As an member of OES I know for a fact that we don't address each other as "soror" anyway. So I'm myself.

As everybody already said, give her the face and keep it moving!

I actually had a young man address me that way earlier this year. I was totally confused, but I said Hey and kept it moving. *shrug*

[nikki1920]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Although I was not in the NPHC as an undergrad, the same applied there at public events. For example, at the annual "Meet the Greeks" everyone on the program was given the title "Soror" or "Frater."

I'm my chapter's representative to the NPHC, and this is how we refer to each other during meetings.

I refer to members of Phi Beta Sigma as my Frat, and am called Soror nikki1920 by them in return.

This is definitely interesting...