lil sis rush

[KSUViolet06]

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How it works: If your guy friend is in a fraternity and you guys are good friends and hang out a lot, he says "Hey wanna be my little?" You say yes. The end. You don't really do anything special. You just get to call him "Big".

I can see why this type of thing is frowned upon, because it causes DRAMA (at least on my campus). Example:

Let's say Bobby Beta has good friends in 2 different sororities, Suzy Sigma and Amy Alpha. Bobby and Suzy start hanging out alot and he makes Suzy Sigma his "Little". Amy Alpha gets upset because she thought that she and Bobby Beta were really good friends. So she goes over to Beta one night, gets a little tipsy, and confronts Bobby Beta about not making her his "Little". Suzy Sigma jumps in to defend her "Big". Drama ensues, and Amy Alpha gets kicked out. She now hates Suzy Sigma and Bobby Beta and tells all of her sisters to never party there again. She also starts saying she hates Sigmas and will tell everyone who will listen how "stupid" they are. All this drama over a silly title.

Viola, instant drama, which is why most (if not all) NPC sororities have policies against these types of relationships.

[LatinaAlumna]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

friends and hang out a lot, he says "Hey wanna be my little?" You say yes. The end. You don't really do anything special. You just get to call him "Big".

Hmmm...why any woman would let a man of her same age group, who is not related to her call her "lil" is beyond me.

At my alma mater, I knew of a fraternity that had "lil sisters." One of the guys once told me that they each pick girls they want to hook up with, and that's what it's based on. I later heard of numerous incidents of near-assault and actual assault of women who were "lil sisters." This org. is not campus anymore, to my knowledge.

[fhchick22]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Fraternities have sorority "littles" at my school, but it's nowhere near as big a deal as what is being described here.

How it works: If your guy friend is in a fraternity and you guys are good friends and hang out a lot, he says "Hey wanna be my little?" You say yes. The end. You don't really do anything special. You just get to call him "Big".

Thats what is done at my school. If a guy is cool big sister asks them to be her littles big bro. After you get introduced, you go out for dinner or something. The little sister has no official affiliation with the fraternity. You may get into parties easier but thats all. It really means nothing its just for fun.

[pirateladybug9]

At my school, it's generally unspoken big/lil sister/brother. I have both a little and big brother, so do other members of my chapter. It is "frowned upon" by our nationals because of the sterotypes that come along with it (for example, when my big's national consultant came, he didn't completly understand how big/little was run at our school, in other chapters, they are just drinking buddies or sex partners).
My big and I became close and he asked me to be his little one day, same goes for my little, he asked me to be his big. My big's big sis is from a totally different chapter than I am. You generally have one big sis/brother from your own chapter and one from a fraternity/sorority, then as many littles as you want/can afford. The chapter never assigns you a specific chapter to be with, let alone your big/little.
Typically, the bigs get the littles a hoodie with the LITTLE's letters on it (you can't wear another chapters letters unless you go through certain ceremonys as detailed in bylaws or ritual) and underneath it will have the big's chapter SPELLED OUT lil' bro/sis. The littles usually make a paddle. I made my big a paddle and letters, same for my little.
I love my big and little, and don't really see how the "tradition" could become so skewed like you guys describe

[KSUViolet06]

Ok. Good for you. You bought letters and a paddle for a guy.

Like I said, most NPC sororities discourage these types of relationships/programs, because it has the potential to cause drama within the sorority chapter or devolve into something completely inappropriate. Does it happen 100% of the time? Nope. But it has obviously caused enough issues for sorority HQs to decide that it's not something they'd want their members involved in.

And really, you can be close friends with a guy in a fraternity without having to call him big, buy him letters, etc.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

And really, you can be close friends with a guy in a fraternity without having to call him big, buy him letters, etc.

Exactly. To be blunt, it seems to be the equivalent of spitting on food so no one else will eat it. "OMG HE'S MY BIG BROTHER GET OFF HIM YOU SLUT!"

The other thing I don't get is if it's at a small school where everyone in the Greek system is in each other's pockets anyway. It just seems like a way to create drama.

[pirateladybug9]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Exactly. To be blunt, it seems to be the equivalent of spitting on food so no one else will eat it. "OMG HE'S MY BIG BROTHER GET OFF HIM YOU SLUT!"

Actually its nothing like that at all. My big is really close to alot of members of my chapter and has other littles as well. Also, he's had a few girlfriends throughout the course of our "relationship".

Personally, I don't understand why its such a huge deal to all of you. I don't think you should sit there and knock big bro-lil sis relationships until you have one yourself. Its not about having someone call you a little and be degrading or anything like that.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by pirateladybug9

Personally, I don't understand why its such a huge deal to all of you. I don't think you should sit there and knock big bro-lil sis relationships until you have one yourself. Its not about having someone call you a little and be degrading or anything like that.

Holy thread from 4 months ago batman.

If you're in an NPC sorority, you should ask your HQ that question hun. I'm 99% that NONE of the NPC HQs approve of it either, so it's not just us here.