Oral Sex may cause throat cancer.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Disclaimer: The ideas you pose are causing my response. I am commenting on the universal "you"

FWB... Do you FCUK your Friends... Are you that hard up?

Well, can't a woman just sexually express herself? Who cares if she sleeps around?

I think the issue we are discuss runs deep. We lack love, generally. Namely, love for ourselves. I see that many kids lack the fundamental concept that when one connects sexually to a vile person, it predisposes them to contracting many a thing, first unwanted pregnancy. Aren't there enough kids thought to be unwanted in this world? Second thing is STI's from garden variety that are treatable to the untreatable or unknown it was an STI.

The more unprotected sexual expression occurs, the more at risk one puts oneself...

So, how does one break this cycle? Why do you think I talk about the "Tantra" and the "Kama Sutra". There is another old practice done in the Carribean that is reminscent of Afrikan Centeredness... I hate to make this a Christianity vs. "insert Spirituality here", but, the "Good Book" lacks teaching about the realness of sexual ectasy.

Now, to reroute thinking, sex did not evolved to be thinking activity. But it did evolved to be a "Spiritual" activity. The highest peak of senusualness. Just because one touches sensually, does not mean intercourse must take place, one can practice. But, the first part is love of God, others and oneself. Not to pinnacle arrogance, but self-care love to love another...

No, I don't have sex with my friends. Yes, a woman can sexually express herself, but does she have to do it with multiple partners? Does she have to do it with her friends? Why can't it be done with one person and one person only? Somone that she loves and cares about.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

No, I don't have sex with my friends. Yes, a woman can sexually express herself, but does she have to do it with multiple partners? Does she have to do it with her friends? Why can't it be done with one person and one person only? Somone that she loves and cares about.

Okay, if she can sexually express herself, she can have any kind of partner she desires even if it is her friend.

Personally, I would not do that, but there are women who just think differently. And to talking to women that do, I know they psychologically hurt and feel that they can find love externally.

It can be done with one person within the bounds of a known commitment (verbal or legal).

Also, NO ONE can love or care about anyone unless he or she loves and cares about his or herself. Period. That is the prerequisite for a relationship. You cannot have that, unless you love yourself. And just because you love yourself sufficiently does not mean your mate to be is ready...

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Okay, if she can sexually express herself, she can have any kind of partner she desires even if it is her friend.

Personally, I would not do that, but there are women who just think differently. And to talking to women that do, I know they psychologically hurt and feel that they can find love externally.

It can be done with one person within the bounds of a known commitment (verbal or legal).

Also, NO ONE can love or care about anyone unless he or she loves and cares about his or herself. Period. That is the prerequisite for a relationship. You cannot have that, unless you love yourself. And just because you love yourself sufficiently does not mean your mate to be is ready...

If she wants to do the FWB thing, then she can go right ahead and risk getting an STD. Hey, it's the in thing for 07', 08', 09' ect. ect.

Yes, I couldn't agree more. You have to love yourself before you can love someone else. I was in a bad relationship like that.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

If she wants to do the FWB thing, then she can go right ahead and risk getting an STD. Hey, it's the in thing for 07', 08', 09' ect. ect.

Personally, IMO, FWB for women is a sexual and psychological vampirism. What happens when a woman falls for the FWB that she is fooling around with?

And if this is what the young folks like to do in the 200- whatever, then all the research and programs dedicated to eliminating illnesses seem to not work...

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Personally, IMO, FWB for women is a sexual and psychological vampirism. What happens when a woman falls for the FWB that she is fooling around with?

And if this is what the young folks like to do in the 200- whatever, then all the research and programs dedicated to eliminating illnesses seem to not work...

That's my whole point. I can't see how two people can screw as friends and nothing else without someone wanting more. I don't think people are created that way. Most animals have sex without any ties. People that do this, I would have to put them in the animal category. That's a silly comment but I don't know what else to call it. To me it's just stupid to screw and that's it. Me personally, I have to have something there. I have to be connected to her mentally during and after the physical part. I can't just have sex and get up and say thanks and leave, only to come back for seconds when I'm aroused.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

That's my whole point. I can't see how two people can screw as friends and nothing else without someone wanting more. I don't think people are created that way. Most animals have sex without any ties. People that do this, I would have to put them in the animal category. That's a silly comment but I don't know what else to call it. To me it's just stupid to screw and that's it. Me personally, I have to have something there. I have to be connected to her mentally during and after the physical part. I can't just have sex and get up and say thanks and leave, only to come back for seconds when I'm aroused.

Well, I would be the wrong person who says anything regarding this. But I do know most women that "go for it"--not all--have suffered sexual violence, such as child sex abuse, rape and other things. That doesn't absolve them, but, it is the underlying reason why some women allow themselves to be prostituted like that.

Animals do not "screw" randomly, they usually are in heat and they usually do it because reproduction. It is thought that only the human animal has sex for other reasons than procreation.

Most women lie to themselves when they say no connection to their sexual partner. Most women need that connection in order to function sanely.

[cheerfulgreek]

This thread has gotten off topic. PB and AKA Monet hijacked it. JK

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Well, I would be the wrong person who says anything regarding this. But I do know most women that "go for it"--not all--have suffered sexual violence, such as child sex abuse, rape and other things. That doesn't absolve them, but, it is the underlying reason why some women allow themselves to be prostituted like that.

Animals do not "screw" randomly, they usually are in heat and they usually do it because reproduction. It is thought that only the human animal has sex for other reasons than procreation.

Most women lie to themselves when they say no connection to their sexual partner. Most women need that connection in order to function sanely.

Right. Most animals mate during mating season. When people have sex with nothing there, it looks the same way to me. I know people mate for pleasure, but to me, to do it and just get up and leave is just as trifling as a dog mating with another dog and then leaving and looking for another one to mate with. That's the way it is. These same people then wonder how they got an STD. The part that makes me mad is when they give it to someone who wants more than just the sex.