"Why Did You Decide to Join ...That?"

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by RozRochelle

It's just hard for some people to accept the fact that not everyone thinks the D9 is a FIT for them.

I admire the D9 and respect it, but from what I know and have observed (and I admit I don't know everything and haven't observed everything), I don't think any of the sororities and myself would "fit" together. I am too non-conformist, too much of a free-thinker, too militant, too outspoken, and I'm not all that big on tradition - which I think is a big no-no in the venerable D9 sororities.

I know myself very well, and it is better that I do my own thing or remain independent. My choices have nothing to do with resentment or rejection.

I have been in the D9 for 14 years and I've met many many members from all the orgs in different places and I can tell you that we come from many different walks of life and are very different people and I truly believe that many of us don't come anywhere close to resembling our NPHC stereotypes and the stereotypes of GLO members in general. My point is that there are many NPHC members who would claim the same things you stated about yourself. I know my friends and family never thought I would be "greek" because I'm so independent and "free" thinking, but I realize now that their assumptions were based on stereotypes. I'm one of those people who wants to be her own boss in everything but one of the most valuable things I've learned as a member of my sorority, is that learning how to follow is just as important as learning how to lead, especially in organizations. Sigma Gamma Rho taught me that following could be powerful if it was necessary and if there was someone better qualified to lead. The very thing that I had always associated with weakness, proved to be one of the most empowering things I now implement in various areas of my life while still being the leader that I am naturally. This is something that I know I would not have learned if I started my own organization. I was so independent (and I have been since I was very young) that I didn't think that there was any way for me to do things without being the leader in everything. It's great that you wanted to start your own organization and if that's what you always had a mind to do, than good luck to you, but talk about how great your organization is or will be, as opposed to how you do not fit into ours because of reasons you think are valid.