"Why Did You Decide to Join ...That?"

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Well I will speak for myself. My first post to the young lady was what I thought was a validation of her need to form her sorority. And to let her know that the things she mentioned were been discussed in the NPHC.

The initial posts to her were helpful in that they gave her something to think about even if she didn't respond. After the initial posts, I don't blame her for not being that receptive or responsive. It can appear that she's being approached from all angles and she's damned if she does and damned if she doesn't.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

The initial posts to her were helpful in that they gave her something to think about even if she didn't respond. After the initial posts, I don't blame her for not being that receptive or responsive. It can appear that she's being approached from all angles and she's damned if she does and damned if she doesn't.

She did respond to my post and there is where the defensiveness crept in.

[RozRochelle]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

The initial posts to her were helpful in that they gave her something to think about even if she didn't respond. After the initial posts, I don't blame her for not being that receptive or responsive. It can appear that she's being approached from all angles and she's damned if she does and damned if she doesn't.

Well, thank you Jesus! That is EXACTLY how I feel. Maybe they'll receive this from you since you're a GC old-timer and have their respect.

Thank you.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by RozRochelle

Well, thank you Jesus! That is EXACTLY how I feel. Maybe they'll receive this from you since you're a GC old-timer and have their respect.

Thank you.

Yet you blasted her in earlier posts. Get the point now? Not everyone is out to get you.

[RozRochelle]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Yet you blasted her in earlier posts.

C'mon now, fair is fair. She blasted me some good ones, too.

Not everyone is out to get you.

I never said that. But, some of y'all haven't given me a fair chance from the jump. And, yes, I have felt targeted. So, please excuse me for not yet fully believing what you just said. I hope to feel differently in time.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by RozRochelle

C'mon now, fair is fair. She blasted me some good ones, too.

Yet today's still a sunny day.

Originally Posted by RozRochelle

I never said that. But, some of y'all haven't given me a fair chance from the jump. And, yes, I have felt targeted. So, please excuse me for not yet fully believing what you just said. I hope to feel differently in time.

You are targeted because you made yourself a target. When people do that, they have to understand that comments will come at them however people send them.

[RozRochelle]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

You are targeted because you made yourself a target. When people do that, they have to understand that comments will come at them however people send them.

How did I make myself a target? I'm not being sarcastic, I really want to know, because evidently I'm missing something. I am really at a loss as to what I did to provoke such strong reactions from people. I thought maybe as a newbie, I wasn't staying in my place, or something. But, maybe it's really not that at all.

I'm listening.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by RozRochelle

How did I make myself a target? I'm not being sarcastic, I really want to know, because evidently I'm missing something. I am really at a loss as to what I did to provoke such strong reactions from people. I thought maybe as a newbie, I wasn't staying in my place, or something. But, maybe it's really not that at all.

I'm listening.

I'm not blaming you completely but it's wierd to wonder why people are "looking at you" when you "raised your hand."

Your first few posts on this board were in threads in which you identified yourself as a founder for a new sorority. That breeds curiosity and targets you for both encouragement and questions.

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by RozRochelle

How did I make myself a target? I'm not being sarcastic, I really want to know, because evidently I'm missing something. I am really at a loss as to what I did to provoke such strong reactions from people. I thought maybe as a newbie, I wasn't staying in my place, or something. But, maybe it's really not that at all.

I'm listening.

I think that NPHC members are just tired of being attacked (not that you are attacking us) and we have become a little sensitive and insensitive. Everyone and their momma thinks they have us all figured out...like we are all cut from the same cloth. We're just tired of the stereotypes and tired of people presenting themselves as the anecdote to NPHC greekdom. If you have a new organization, then talk about why you're great...not about why we're so wrong or don't "fit" you because there are plenty of NPHC members that will tell you that people act so surprised when they tell them that they're in XYZ sorority or fraternity.

When I talk about why I joined Sigma Gamma Rho, I just talk about Sigma Gamma Rho. I don't talk about why I didn't pursue DST, ZPhiB, or AKA. No one really wants to hear why you didn't join their organization...it puts people off and makes them think that you (like so many others) are ruled by stereotypes. And this may not be what you mean, but new orgs on greekchat have a history of presenting themselves as the alternative to us...and it's getting old and tired.

[RedVelvet]

Originally Posted by RozRochelle

How did I make myself a target? I'm not being sarcastic, I really want to know, because evidently I'm missing something. I am really at a loss as to what I did to provoke such strong reactions from people. I thought maybe as a newbie, I wasn't staying in my place, or something. But, maybe it's really not that at all.

I'm listening.

Roz,

I don't have a dog in this fight, but when I re-read your initial posts in this thread, I thought that they were provocative and condescending. Your responses to ladygreek were out of line, especially since she was quite civil in her responses to you. Your comment concerning "the affiliate thing" really hit me the wrong way. I can only imaging how it sounded to the members of that particular sorority. If you don't think that you share the responsibility for some of the negativity you've encountered, then you are definitely missing something.