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I was a legacy to a sorority on my campus and went through Rush thinking about all of the things my Mom always said about her enjoyable sorority experience (and not thinking about the fact that she was in college 35 years before I was and at a different school no less!). Looking back on things, I thought that I had a pretty fair shot of getting into my legacy house (my Mom was a former President; but again at another school) and was absolutely crushed when I got dropped. Granted that was also a year this chapter could've filled to quota just with legacies. But I still found my home--and on bid day when I looked over at my legacy chapter, I saw a couple of girls from my floor (who I was not fond of) hugging their new sisters. And right then I knew that them dropping me was the best thing they could've done. I think had I joined that particular chapter I would've been a completely different person than I am now.
I did rush at a smaller school (but one with a fairly good-sized Greek system), but I definitely learned a lot about what it's like to be a legacy and the pressures that come with it. I know at the time I was dropped from my legacy house I think I was sad because I thought I let my Mom down. She handled things really well and I think she was just happy that I went Greek period--she told me that she didn't care which sorority I joined; she just wanted me to have great friends like she did in college. I know when I have kids (if they're girls), I would like for them to rush--but I'm not going to force it. I also think I put a lot of pressure on myself to get into the house I was a legacy too, which may have caused me to do things at that house that I wouldn't have (and shouldn't have) normally.
So I guess another myth would be: Parents put more pressure on kids to join their groups than their children do.
That obviously was not the case for me.
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