Random: Recruitment

[exlurker]

Myth #5 (?): IF a sorority cuts someone, that means they didn't like her or there's something wrong with her

It ain't necessarily so. Every member that a PNM met may have thought she was likeable, fun, and potentially an okay addition to the house. But the reality of the release figures / quota-total system (or other system for some schools like Indiana U that go their own distinctive way) can mean that X number of PNMs must be cut by a house.

Admittedly, it's not very comforting to realize that some cuts can be part of a numbers game of sorts. On the other hand, obsessing over "why didn't they like me"
may be a case of missing the point about what really happened.

By the way, NUBlue&Blue gave great advice, IMHO: "keep your mouth shut" about reputations, what chapters you did or didn't like and why, etc. You never know who's listening and, equally important, who they may be "reporting" to. Ideally the other PNMs in a recrutiment group or in the dorm will never be on the phone or IMing with friends or biological sisters already in sororities, and would never talk to mothers who are alums. On this sad little planet called Earth, though, you never can tell.

[CZAXOTerp]

Originally Posted by exlurker

By the way, NUBlue&Blue gave great advice, IMHO: "keep your mouth shut" about reputations, what chapters you did or didn't like and why, etc. You never know who's listening and, equally important, who they may be "reporting" to. Ideally the other PNMs in a recrutiment group or in the dorm will never be on the phone or IMing with friends or biological sisters already in sororities, and would never talk to mothers who are alums.

I just wanted to 2nd this- I am sure we all have heard stories similar to this- my best friend's cousin is 5 yrs younger than me, she went to my alma mater. Her freshman year I took her cousin to an early season b-ball game @ my school and we met up w/ her cousin. I asked how her 1st semester was going & if she was going to rush- she said yes, and asked if I had been in a house, I told her my affiliation and she said "Oh" then told me that she was really only interested in a few chapters and named them- none of them being mine. I told her that she should go into rush with an open mind because you never know.

Sure enough spring rolls around, she goes through and she accepts a bid to my chapter. I was a little surprised, but happy to call her my sister.... still it caused me to chuckle and think a little bit of "what if..."