"Why Did You Decide to Join ...That?"

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Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

This has nothing to do with NPHC orgs having a problem with the existence of non-NPHC orgs so please get off that soapbox.

I have no problem with someone starting a new organization and if you had read some of my other posts, you would have seen that. As for putting your founder on blast...if your soror hadn't stated that one of your founders is one of my sorors, then no one would be on blast. But you can't expect to put something out there like that (something that none of my sorors have even heard about to my knowledge) and not have any of our members respond to it. As for looking thru your websites, wouldn't you be curious if someone so boldly stated that one of your sorors is one of their founders?...

Now if one of your founders is indeed one of my sorors and she hasn't abandoned her sorority but rather now has dual membership in both (if that's even allowed), then great for her. On the other hand, if she abandoned our beloved sorority to start a new one, you better hope that she doesn't become disenchanted with your organization in the future and abandon yours...to start yet another one.

I have read your other posts which is why I responded in the first place. My comments regarding members of D9 organizations was to point out that many use the "why didn't you pledge alumni chapter" (just as you did in your earlier post) as if I made the wrong choice by not deciding to join any of the NPHC orgs.

As far as the comments about our founder, my only objection is you are making accusations based on one comment. Since the forum is open to all types of comments, I expected a response, but one that tries to discredit my organization is not something I can easily ignore. If this really poses such a problem to you then there are other ways to resolve the issue.

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

My question to you all not a part of the D9 (NPHC) and were founded <25 years ago, aside from snarky comments from anyone, what is with this "insecurities" about the business with your respective organizations?

I mean, really, I don't care why you joined. You thought you were "__________" (insert organization here), material. So you joined it. Now that you have, I am reading strong insecurities as to the reasons' for your organization's existence that seems projected onto us from the D9.

You ought not feel insecure if what you thought was right. However, did you all honestly think your creations would not be a long, hard fought battle of legitimacy before your precedents and peers? The constant justification of your exisitence?

Hayle, you honestly think we of the D9 are never constantly berated for our own organization's existence?

Just asking because there is more here that meets the eye and a few of us speak to other higher ups who you never know might assist you... Such as maybe a NPHC developmental program, which includes stategic planning, budget development, legal historical documents, and non-profit status with fictious names.

Just to respond to some of your comments...yes, I knew that by joining ANY organization I would be questioned about its existence. But what I don't appreciate is those who want to try to "pledge" me all over again about my organization. I will answer any questions (and I expect questions because that is how others will learn about who we are being that we are new and expanding to other areas), but when others try to get personal and make negative comments that is where it ends for me. There is a tendency to get defensive, but once you earn the right to wear your letters you won't let anyone that's on the outside looking in to try to make your organization look bad. If you do not want people approaching you in that way, why do it to someone else?

I know many members of greek organizations of all types who face this challenge. I also know that there is great opposition from those who don't see the need for the greek system at all. I knew going in that you should expect to have both good and bad days. Most of my experiences have been very pleasant and I have built relationships with members of other orgs who have shared some of the knowledge they have gained over the years. There are some who feel that we should not exist and do not want to offer any type of help (I have been told those words personally), but I have learned that actions speak louder than words. The only thing that I can do is to keep working and focus on what I can do to make my organization better.