"Why Did You Decide to Join ...That?"

[sbx_six_eye]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

What do you mean by pledge? No one should be pledging anyone, period. I know you think there is all this underground and heard of plenty of stuff. But, stuff as it is. There is embellishment and exaggerations. Then, there is truths...

Basically, just like you said: by one's actions. Who cares if what someone says if by your actions your sorority is meeting what you think is a critical need?



Like a said, you ought not feel insecure about the true mission of your sorority. If you want to be a bonafid organzation with perpetuity, you need to have governance usually by constitution and bylaws. Then you all need a strategic plan, long term and short term goals.

I say all this because many folks want superior organizations. Some say, because they couldn't make one of the D9's of their choice. So they start their own group, then wonder why everyone dislikes them when they show out with line names, numbers, and jackets.

Most of the D9 has stood the test of time by one thing only: Mission and Program. I don't know how long it takes to get the time relevancy, but I know it takes time.

As far as you all, Sigma Beta Xi. I have seen your lovely website. You have a niche unfullfilled. However, you all need structure beyond all the surface crap as line names, numbers and jackets. You are going to need a very strong program. And to get that, you need non profit status and membership enhancement. You will have an uphill battle because, how are your members, who are in college, that are college age having children? It's that bogus moral question? Your retort should not be aimed at us, squarely. It should be mothers need ________________, too. And there are other MOM sororities.

Then, it sounds like your program should be support mothers to be self-sufficient for the utmost in care for children. As a matter of fact, when you say, "Mom's support group"--then you all need to start you own, not just for your Sorority, but everywhere you can gain access to. What is it to be in the SBX Mom's Support Group or "Play Group"?

Do you have that right to do that? Most DEFINITELY!!! I love my Sorority, but we do not have anything like that...

My comment regarding "pledging" was not to call any org out about their activities, but to illustrate that in my experience, members of other orgs have tried to drill me about SBX as if they have a right to do so. I am sure all of you know the difference I someone just inquiring about you org and then someone coming to you in an attacking manner. That was what I referring to. Again, don't take my comment in a threatening way...but if you have experience in how to handle that then please let me know.

While I do appreciate your input regarding SBX, I just wanted you to know that we do have a constitution and bylaws already in place and various other programs that are in the works. Some of your points are in areas that I had questions in myself, but the challenge so far (in my opinion) has been the long and short term planning and determining the main focus. If the impression you got from our website is that all we are concerned with is what is on the surface I apologize for that because that is not all we stand for.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by sbx_six_eye

My comment regarding "pledging" was not to call any org out about their activities, but to illustrate that in my experience, members of other orgs have tried to drill me about SBX as if they have a right to do so. I am sure all of you know the difference I someone just inquiring about you org and then someone coming to you in an attacking manner. That was what I referring to. Again, don't take my comment in a threatening way...but if you have experience in how to handle that then please let me know.

While I do appreciate your input regarding SBX, I just wanted you to know that we do have a constitution and bylaws already in place and various other programs that are in the works. Some of your points are in areas that I had questions in myself, but the challenge so far (in my opinion) has been the long and short term planning and determining the main focus. If the impression you got from our website is that all we are concerned with is what is on the surface I apologize for that because that is not all we stand for.

No Sweetheart, there are other new greek organizations around here on GC that post all kind of stuff about what it is to be greek. No, actually, I think your sorority's website is very lovely and you all do have working programs. That was more toward your comment regarding a "Motherhood support group". I still think you all should still be in charge of one... But, baby steps are fine, too...

In regards to folks questioning you all about SBX: you are right, there is no reason for that. But, you do have to understand that probably who you are talking to are a bunch of 19-20-something year olds that are fresh from intake. That does not excuse their actions. But, you have to put an age limit. And if you are getting it from some 30-somethings or 40-somethings+, they are lame to act that way in general...

We get the harassment, too...

I don't know how to deal with stupidity, so I don't...

But, what I would do in your case in regards to "organizational planning", I would go to your city's "Foundation Board" and I know the United Way has Board trainings, and I would gather as much information I can. Your college's student affairs office should have some information. And your freebie courses like a "DiscoverU.org" has board training courses. Some groups have nonprofit assistance including the legals and the strategic plans. We call it the "Nonprofit Assistance Center" in my city. And all you need to do is know the "scientific method": Abstract, Hypothesis, Background and Significance, Specific Aims, Material and Methods, Results, Conclusions and Discussion for a well thought out strategic plan, including a budget.

PM me if you want more information.

[Jody]

SBX six eye posted: That was what I referring to. Again, don't take my comment in a threatening way...but if you have experience in how to handle that then please let me know.[/SIZE][/FONT]

Blank stares work pretty well.