Are You Too Good For These Men?

[RedefinedDiva]

The difference here is also between a person having a PROFESSION/CAREER or a JOB. Those are two vastly different things.

[Little32]

I think that fact that I am Dr. Little is a bit intimidating to guys sometimes. I am not picky about education either, though a bachelor's degree is generally a cut off. The "blue-collar" guy does have that, but he also has a lot of other insecurities. I don't get men sometimes.

[Sugar08]

Originally Posted by Little32

I don't get men sometimes.

Understatement of the year?

Few do, Soror.

[NinjaPoodle]

Women think I'm a THUG."

Jonathan, 24

Occupation: Recent M.B.A. graduate; financial analyst

When he's not at work: "I'm trying to start a record label with some friends."

Nice-guy cred: "I'm a gentleman. That means pulling out chairs, opening the car door, and sending flowers for no reason come standard."

He says: "When I'm not on the clock, I wear baggy pants and will even throw on a fitted cap and do-rag for good measure. But that doesn't mean I'm a thug or an immature representation of hip-hop culture-and all the baggage that goes along with that. My clothes are about one thing: comfort. When I wear my Jordans instead of my khakis, ladies in sexy business suits don't even look my way. If women would only take the time to find out who I really am, they'd see that I'm a good-hearted person."

He's looking for: "A woman who is smart and funny and will inspire me in every way."

Well sweetie, it's cause' you look like one. Standing there, lookin' like ya' gonna to shoot someone. (what is that sticking out of your back pocket?)

[NiaX]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Well sweetie, it's cause' you look like one. Standing there, lookin' like ya' gonna to shoot someone. (what is that sticking out of your back pocket?)

hilarious!

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

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Oh, I didn't see this one...sorry ladies, but I'd date him. LOL

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Well sweetie, it's cause' you look like one. Standing there, lookin' like ya' gonna to shoot someone. (what is that sticking out of your back pocket?)

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athetlic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athletic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

Good point.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Good point.

Unfortunately, many women haven't mastered the art of DATING. That's why they go into these casual interactions with unmet expectations.

Men tend to know exactly what dating means:
We hang out and are cool with each other and THEN see where it goes from there. No real rules unless we articulate them later on when and IF we decide to do a RELATIONSHIP. Until then, don't get too comfortable or excited because not many of my friends and basically none of my family will be told about you. That's because you aren't the only person I am DATING.

[FeeFee]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athetlic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

DITTO to everything you posted ^^.

[Wonderful1908]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athetlic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

I agree as well. I can't stand a Prep all the time. I need you to know how to get around the hood if needed My husband never was the preppy polished type nor the thug, he's rough around edges but passed the cucumber test.

Cucumber test, do you know the difference between a cucumber and a zuchinni (sp?)
Yall thought the cucmber test was something else

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

I can't stand a Prep all the time.

See, I can. I guess I'm just old school that way. I don't mind jeans and a Harvard sweatshirt on the weekend but the clothes need to fit and he better have some khaki shorts. Doc’s and Tim’s are OUT.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

I agree as well. I can't stand a Prep all the time. I need you to know how to get around the hood if needed

EXACTLY!

[BlueReign]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Well sweetie, it's cause' you look like one. Standing there, lookin' like ya' gonna to shoot someone. (what is that sticking out of your back pocket?)

Soror, I don't know what's funnier? Your statement or the little thugged-out smiley. Haha!

Now, he does look like someone I know (and probably would have dated some years ago). This is a very good thread and to answer the original question:

Hell yeah. for so many different reasons.

[Boom_Quack13]

Those guys just seem like your every day guy. Nothing really "wrong" with them.

BUT....

The article tells a little about them and lists some of their nicer qualities. You'll never see a singles profile that lists flaws. Maybe these guys have unmentioned flaws that keep them from attracting someone long-term.

Of course, I am married, but I don't know a whole lot of women who are so shallow that they would give the "excuses" that these men claim that women give them.