Are You Too Good For These Men?

[NinjaPoodle]

Women think I'm a THUG."

Jonathan, 24

Occupation: Recent M.B.A. graduate; financial analyst

When he's not at work: "I'm trying to start a record label with some friends."

Nice-guy cred: "I'm a gentleman. That means pulling out chairs, opening the car door, and sending flowers for no reason come standard."

He says: "When I'm not on the clock, I wear baggy pants and will even throw on a fitted cap and do-rag for good measure. But that doesn't mean I'm a thug or an immature representation of hip-hop culture-and all the baggage that goes along with that. My clothes are about one thing: comfort. When I wear my Jordans instead of my khakis, ladies in sexy business suits don't even look my way. If women would only take the time to find out who I really am, they'd see that I'm a good-hearted person."

He's looking for: "A woman who is smart and funny and will inspire me in every way."

Well sweetie, it's cause' you look like one. Standing there, lookin' like ya' gonna to shoot someone. (what is that sticking out of your back pocket?)

[NiaX]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Well sweetie, it's cause' you look like one. Standing there, lookin' like ya' gonna to shoot someone. (what is that sticking out of your back pocket?)

hilarious!

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

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Oh, I didn't see this one...sorry ladies, but I'd date him. LOL

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Well sweetie, it's cause' you look like one. Standing there, lookin' like ya' gonna to shoot someone. (what is that sticking out of your back pocket?)

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athetlic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athletic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

Good point.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Good point.

Unfortunately, many women haven't mastered the art of DATING. That's why they go into these casual interactions with unmet expectations.

Men tend to know exactly what dating means:
We hang out and are cool with each other and THEN see where it goes from there. No real rules unless we articulate them later on when and IF we decide to do a RELATIONSHIP. Until then, don't get too comfortable or excited because not many of my friends and basically none of my family will be told about you. That's because you aren't the only person I am DATING.

[UrbanizdSkillz]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Unfortunately, many women haven't mastered the art of DATING. That's why they go into these casual interactions with unmet expectations.

Men tend to know exactly what dating means:
We hang out and are cool with each other and THEN see where it goes from there. No real rules unless we articulate them later on when and IF we decide to do a RELATIONSHIP. Until then, don't get too comfortable or excited because not many of my friends and basically none of my family will be told about you. That's because you aren't the only person I am DATING.

Exactly. Can you submit that one to Webster's? I think its a more appropriate definition

ETA: (LOL at your signature! "I went to go get my rollerskates and right there on the form it said 'Have you told your parents that you're gay?'")

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by UrbanizdSkillz

Exactly. Can you submit that one to Webster's? I think its a more appropriate definition

ETA: (LOL at your signature! "I went to go get my rollerskates and right there on the form it said 'Have you told your parents that you're gay?'")

I will contact Webster's immediately.

I cracked up!!! They are sooo stooopid. LOL.

[NiaX]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Unfortunately, many women haven't mastered the art of DATING. That's why they go into these casual interactions with unmet expectations.

Men tend to know exactly what dating means:
We hang out and are cool with each other and THEN see where it goes from there. No real rules unless we articulate them later on when and IF we decide to do a RELATIONSHIP. Until then, don't get too comfortable or excited because not many of my friends and basically none of my family will be told about you. That's because you aren't the only person I am DATING.

Isn't this the equivalent to what folks used to call "talking"? eg: Jessica has been talking to Ramon since Jan. but also has been talking to Bob since Nov.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by NiaX

Isn't this the equivalent to what folks you to call "talking"? eg: Jessica has been talking to Ramon since Jan. but also has been talking to Bob since Nov.

I guess.

Even then people got confused between "talking" and a "relationship" with high expectations.

[FeeFee]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athetlic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

DITTO to everything you posted ^^.

[Wonderful1908]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athetlic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

I agree as well. I can't stand a Prep all the time. I need you to know how to get around the hood if needed My husband never was the preppy polished type nor the thug, he's rough around edges but passed the cucumber test.

Cucumber test, do you know the difference between a cucumber and a zuchinni (sp?)
Yall thought the cucmber test was something else

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

I can't stand a Prep all the time.

See, I can. I guess I'm just old school that way. I don't mind jeans and a Harvard sweatshirt on the weekend but the clothes need to fit and he better have some khaki shorts. Doc’s and Tim’s are OUT.

[Wonderful1908]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

See, I can. Doc’s and Tim’s are OUT.

Just kidding, if my husband ever bought a pair of jeans to "fit", I seriously would not roll with him . I don't want him saggin but just a little room is very neccesary. We lve down South so Tims aren't a big deal but Jordans are.

[OOhsoflyDELTA#9]

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

Just kidding, if my husband ever bought a pair of jeans to "fit", I seriously would not roll with him . I don't want him saggin but just a little room is very neccesary. We lve down South so Tims aren't a big deal but Jordans are.

WE ARE HERE!!! Sag is a bit much to me now, but PLEASE have some room in your pants...call me shallow or whatever, but I briefly dated a guy who wore his pants fitting and it drove me crazy!! That plus his all around "squareness" did that situation in...I need my man to be able to handle himself if something happens to pop off...but not be a thug either...I need a healthy balance...