Cautiously dipping a toe in here...

[wear-a-kite-LSU]

So this discussion is over BUT i thought I'd give you a little 'food for thought'.

First of all, I haven't been on GC for only a month. Since you consider yourself a GC expert, you of all people should know that its very easy to simply start a new account and get a fresh slate. As someone who values being anonymous you should know that many posters have multiple accounts.

Second, you are the not the authority on who should be posting.
I was raised with a certain measure of common decency that does not dissolve when seated behind my computer screen.

Finally, I would like to recommend a book to you. It is called 'What would Jackie Do?' and might help you learn some social graces.

[AlphaFrog]

If you're such a Miss Manners on GC, why the need for a "fresh slate"?

And, I believe honesty would fall under "social graces". So if you want to blow sunshine up her ass because you think it's the "ladylike" thing to do, go ahead. I'll just keep tellin' it like it is.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by wear-a-kite-LSU

Well you have bad manners. I hope better for your future children.

I've got two (and no more). The youngest is 5 months. The oldest is 2 1/2, she says please, thank you, no thank you, bless you, etc., and corrects those who don't. She also tells it like it is.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by wear-a-kite-LSU

So this discussion is over BUT i thought I'd give you a little 'food for thought'.

First of all, I haven't been on GC for only a month. Since you consider yourself a GC expert, you of all people should know that its very easy to simply start a new account and get a fresh slate. As someone who values being anonymous you should know that many posters have multiple accounts.

Second, you are the not the authority on who should be posting.
I was raised with a certain measure of common decency that does not dissolve when seated behind my computer screen.

Finally, I would like to recommend a book to you. It is called 'What would Jackie Do?' and might help you learn some social graces.

People shouldn't need multiple accounts if they stand behind what they post. Seems some don't have a backbone. Plus I wouldn't be advocating AI at all if my organization was one that makes it basically impossible to do so. If you want manners and kind words, go to a puppies and kittens and rainbows messageboard.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by centaur532

Plus I wouldn't be advocating AI at all if my organization was one that makes it basically impossible to do so.

I think this is key. Many people who encourage the PNAM, do so knowing that it's not their org that the PNAM is pursuing (or even if it is the org, it's impossible for them to join).

I think one of the reasons I got defensive early in this thread is that my org is prominent where the OP is from, so I know very well that my org could be "shopped for" if the OP doesn't get anywhere with the one from Duke.

[dukemama]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I think this is key. Many people who encourage the PNAM, do so knowing that it's not their org that the PNAM is pursuing (or even if it is the org, it's impossible for them to join).

I think one of the reasons I got defensive early in this thread is that my org is prominent where the OP is from, so I know very well that my org could be "shopped for" if the OP doesn't get anywhere with the one from Duke.

Just to correct you Alphafrog, the NPC sorority I'm most interested in is not at my alma mater. If you're referring to the situation with my friend at the recent reunion, I won't be pursuing AI with her group.

And to everyone: I take things written on the internet with a grain of salt. Of course I like encouraging comments but getting a "dose of reality" once in a while doesn't hurt, either. I'm a big girl! Let's move on, shall we?

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by dukemama

Just to correct you Alphafrog, the NPC sorority I'm most interested in is not at my alma mater. If you're referring to the situation with my friend at the recent reunion, I won't be pursuing AI with her group.

And to everyone: I take things written on the internet with a grain of salt. Of course I like encouraging comments but getting a "dose of reality" once in a while doesn't hurt, either. I'm a big girl! Let's move on, shall we?

I love that you're the most mature one in this thread

[dukemama]

Originally Posted by centaur532

I love that you're the most mature one in this thread

I'm probably (one of the) oldest, too! < back atcha >

[PenguinTrax]

Originally Posted by dukemama

I'm probably (one of the) oldest, too! < back atcha >

Hmm...don't think so...lol.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by wear-a-kite-LSU

So this discussion is over BUT i thought I'd give you a little 'food for thought'.

First of all, I haven't been on GC for only a month. Since you consider yourself a GC expert, you of all people should know that its very easy to simply start a new account and get a fresh slate. As someone who values being anonymous you should know that many posters have multiple accounts.

Second, you are the not the authority on who should be posting.
I was raised with a certain measure of common decency that does not dissolve when seated behind my computer screen.

Finally, I would like to recommend a book to you. It is called 'What would Jackie Do?' and might help you learn some social graces.

It's not very classy to tell other people they lack class, bless your heart! I would think a Theta from LSU would know better.

[LPIDelta]

Isn't multiple names a violation of TOS? And wouldn't that be wrong and, therefore, unlady like? Incidentally, I've read the book mentioned and I didn't find it helpful, at least not anymore helpful that similiar books.

Anyway--kite person, one of the reasons we got into the whole "AI shopping" mess,debacle, travesty was because way too many people were way too encouraging. We were all sitting around saying, "Good luck with your search" and "You can do it" (myself included) and giving advice, and when it got tough for people, because they didn't appreciate the sensitivity of this subject, that served no one.

The current climate with regard to AI is one of caution and one that more accurately reflects the purpose of AI. Sororities are not as open to AI as they are collegiate membership--and we need not pretend just people's feelings don't get hurt.

Reading the rest of the forum will reveal an abundance of philosophies on the subject--and since we cannot all agree on those philosophies, the one thing we have agreed on is that its not all rosy and fun and so that's the message we agree to send.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Heather17

Isn't multiple names a violation of TOS? And wouldn't that be wrong and, therefore, unlady like? Incidentally, I've read the book mentioned and I didn't find it helpful, at least not anymore helpful that similiar books.

Anyway--kite person, one of the reasons we got into the whole "AI shopping" mess,debacle, travesty was because way too many people were way too encouraging. We were all sitting around saying, "Good luck with your search" and "You can do it" (myself included) and giving advice, and when it got tough for people, because they didn't appreciate the sensitivity of this subject, that served no one.

The current climate with regard to AI is one of caution and one that more accurately reflects the purpose of AI. Sororities are not as open to AI as they are collegiate membership--and we need not pretend just people's feelings don't get hurt.

Reading the rest of the forum will reveal an abundance of philosophies on the subject--and since we cannot all agree on those philosophies, the one thing we have agreed on is that its not all rosy and fun and so that's the message we agree to send.

Well said.