Cautiously dipping a toe in here...

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by centaur532

Plus I wouldn't be advocating AI at all if my organization was one that makes it basically impossible to do so.

I think this is key. Many people who encourage the PNAM, do so knowing that it's not their org that the PNAM is pursuing (or even if it is the org, it's impossible for them to join).

I think one of the reasons I got defensive early in this thread is that my org is prominent where the OP is from, so I know very well that my org could be "shopped for" if the OP doesn't get anywhere with the one from Duke.

[dukemama]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I think this is key. Many people who encourage the PNAM, do so knowing that it's not their org that the PNAM is pursuing (or even if it is the org, it's impossible for them to join).

I think one of the reasons I got defensive early in this thread is that my org is prominent where the OP is from, so I know very well that my org could be "shopped for" if the OP doesn't get anywhere with the one from Duke.

Just to correct you Alphafrog, the NPC sorority I'm most interested in is not at my alma mater. If you're referring to the situation with my friend at the recent reunion, I won't be pursuing AI with her group.

And to everyone: I take things written on the internet with a grain of salt. Of course I like encouraging comments but getting a "dose of reality" once in a while doesn't hurt, either. I'm a big girl! Let's move on, shall we?

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by dukemama

Just to correct you Alphafrog, the NPC sorority I'm most interested in is not at my alma mater. If you're referring to the situation with my friend at the recent reunion, I won't be pursuing AI with her group.

And to everyone: I take things written on the internet with a grain of salt. Of course I like encouraging comments but getting a "dose of reality" once in a while doesn't hurt, either. I'm a big girl! Let's move on, shall we?

I love that you're the most mature one in this thread

[dukemama]

Originally Posted by centaur532

I love that you're the most mature one in this thread

I'm probably (one of the) oldest, too! < back atcha >

[PenguinTrax]

Originally Posted by dukemama

I'm probably (one of the) oldest, too! < back atcha >

Hmm...don't think so...lol.

[SWTXBelle]

I am fairly confident that no headquarters keep records of PNMs who were not invited back to a party. Can you imagine the paperwork?? I'm in the process of touring all 26 headquarters (7 down, 19 to go!) and I have yet to have a guide say "And here is where we keep the records for everyone a chapter did not invite back or extend a bid to!"
As was expressed eloquently above, you will never have a situation where everyone in a group gets along. I believe that any time you have 3 or more people, there is conflict. So I second the idea of leaving the past behind and going forward. Good luck -