Sista,
You are simply stating that we never had a choice in the matter, that I stated about 6 pages ago.
We have been involved in this "society" for roughly ~150 years since "emancipation". What more do we expect? We are lucky we get referred to by our names. Much less than what they use to call us... And some folks want to refer to us just as numbers--or "Pickaninny" or "Buck"... That's a good name...