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Originally Posted by ecupidelta
There's a difference between mentioning in passing "Wow, Susie PNM is really pretty. Her dress was so cute!" or saying "Well, Sally PNM was nice and would fit in except she's butt ugly and we can't bid her". I'm glad I was part of a chapter that was part of the first example!
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Couldn't have thought of a better way to say it.
I realize that when you join a sorority there are some personal "freedoms" you might have to relinquish, like watching what you say or do when representing your organization, coming to events when asked to, etc. It might include doing things like dressing up for class during rush and wearing make up during rush. I don't think asking that much is unreasonable. But asking a member to overhaul her personality, or totally re do her wardrobe, do something that doesn't mesh with personal values or, essentially, be someone she isn't is not what sisterhood is about. And that's not right. We don't know what they were asked to do, but I am betting it was more than wear a skirt and some blush to class.
I can safely say that my chapter also fits into that first example, and that I've never seen us make a woman change who she is. Look cute during rush? Yes. Wear some make up, brush your hair. But do we tell them what style of clothing to wear, or to act like a different person? Never. And I've never seen the attitude that a woman won't be considered for membership because of her looks. It's nice to get a girl who is everything we are and pretty as a bonus, but dang...what is the point of picking a girl because she's cute, and not because she has that Alpha Gam spark?
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