rushing and the dues question

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by amanda6035

I would rather a PNM express her concerns during recruitment, then to make the decision to depledge later, for financial reasons

I agree. Every sorority on my campus gives out financial pamphlets with cost info (including housing costs) in them during rush. It annoys me when girls depledge and say "it's too expensive" when they SAW THE FREAKING SHEET and they had EVERY opportunity in the world to ask questions.

I think it has alot to do with girls being excited to join and THINKING they can afford it. They don't truly take a minute to think about their budget and what they can actually afford. Then they actually start paying for things and realize that they bit off more than they could chew financially.

My advice to PNMs is to really be honest with yourself and think about what you can afford before you decide to join. You'll save yourself alot of disappointment that you'll experience if you end up having to depledge.

[AGDee]

While I agree that it's good to be honest if there could be a financial problem, I don't think it's necessary to say what the OP said. Saying something like "Thank you for that information, it shouldn't be a problem" or "I've got that covered" is fine. It doesn't matter *where* the money is going to come from to pay those dues.

[irishpipes]

I would say something like, "That's all? I thought buying my friends would cost much more!"

[FSUZeta]

i would just say "thank you" or "thank you for the information"when you receive the sheet of financial obligations and leave it at that.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I think saying "I've discussed it with my parents, and I am prepared to take on the expense" is a good response, because, IMO, chapters like to hear that your parents know and support your decision to rush/pledge. If you just say "Ok" or "I've got it covered", it doesn't give the impression that you have thought about it in advance. OTOH, you want to avoid the sense that you are not taking any responsibility for it.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by AGDee

While I agree that it's good to be honest if there could be a financial problem, I don't think it's necessary to say what the OP said. Saying something like "Thank you for that information, it shouldn't be a problem" or "I've got that covered" is fine. It doesn't matter *where* the money is going to come from to pay those dues.

Agreed. The house doesn't need to know anything more than the fact you can afford it.