whitelily needs advice

adpiucf · #1 03-12-2007, 03:58 PM

Your age and class rank may be an issue, but with only 4 sororities, and one of those being recently colonized they will proabably be more open to upperclassmen and older students than at other campuses. Make it a point to work into each conversation you have at recruitment that you will be at school for another 3 years. You don't need to bring up your age or explain that away.

Go through recruitment and see what happens. Cuts are inevitable in this process and can be disappointing. Go into recruitment with an open mind and give all of the sororites a fair chance to wow you. If you come in with the perspective that you are looking for a few chapters you enjoy rather than just one that you must-have, you'll have a healthier mindset throughout the process. Good luck!

whiteXseaXlily · #2 03-14-2007, 07:36 AM

I feel a little better now. I know it's not impossible, but it isn't going to be easy. I'd like to thank all of you for your answers. Being open minded is not a problem. I guess it's easier to do that at a school with so few groups.

Because of my situation, would recs be a good or bad idea for me? I know they're supposed to be an introduction and resume kind of deal. I don't know if they're used a lot at this school, though.

Any ideas?

amanda6035 · #3 03-14-2007, 07:49 AM

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Originally Posted by adpiucf

Your age and class rank may be an issue, but with only 4 sororities, and one of those being recently colonized they will proabably be more open to upperclassmen and older students than at other campuses. Make it a point to work into each conversation you have at recruitment that you will be at school for another 3 years. You don't need to bring up your age or explain that away.

Go through recruitment and see what happens. Cuts are inevitable in this process and can be disappointing. Go into recruitment with an open mind and give all of the sororites a fair chance to wow you. If you come in with the perspective that you are looking for a few chapters you enjoy rather than just one that you must-have, you'll have a healthier mindset throughout the process. Good luck!

This is good advice! especially about the colony wanting upperclassmen. I was a 23 year old freshman, fresh out of the military, which is why I was older. I also go to a small school - only 2 NPC sororities. Good luck, let us know how it goes!

dgdramadawg · #4 03-14-2007, 05:08 PM

Recs are never a bad idea... they give the chapter a chance to get to know a little more about you before recruitment. If your campus' recruitment isn't competitive, it might seem like overkill to have multiple recs for each house, but one for each covers all of your bases and I can't imagine that it would be bad for them to see that a sister recommends you! On the same token, if it's not too competitive, don't freak out about it if you don't know someone who can write a rec for you for all 4 groups.

Have fun with recruitment! I went to a very competitive school and we still had transfer pledges at several houses who were often 20-22 years old. As long as you push the fact that you will be there almost as long as an 18 year old freshman, I don't think your age will hurt you in a smaller campus' recruitment.

whiteXseaXlily · #5 03-20-2007, 12:31 PM

I'm all about getting recs, but I'm aware of a small problem. I know I can't tell anyone where I'm from, other than that it's in the south.

There is only an alumnae group for one of those organizations. The second is at least an hour away, the third is over two hours away, and the fourth doesn't even exist in my state.

Does anyone have advice on how to proceed with this knowledge?

KSUViolet06 · #6 03-20-2007, 01:41 PM

Try to contact the Alumnae Panhellenic that's closest to your area. Alumnae Panhellnics are alumnae groups made up of women from each of the 26 NPC organizations (or most of them). They exist to promote sorority life in the community and often help young women with preparing for rush, and MAY be able to help you with recs.

They're listed alphabetically by city here:

http://www.npcwomen.org/alumnae/a_directory.php

emleepc · #7 03-21-2007, 12:38 PM

I was a junior when I joined. I went to a school that had 4 NPC sororities. Don't lose hope, it can be done. I would never change waiting until later in school to join. I made the best decision because of it.

Be positive, meet anyone and everyone you can, get recs if you can (I didn't have any), and just be your fabulous self!!!

EGAOPi · #8 03-26-2007, 01:18 PM

Age is obviously a factor, but the fact that you're going to be in school for a long as someone going through a recruitment as a sophomore should definitely help you out. Just be sure to mention it...you don't have to go into details, but let them know that you had a situation where you had to move home and that's why you're just now starting your life at this school. Tell them you know you have at least 3 good years there and can't wait to get involved. Obviously, there are no guarantees, but I think this will help your chances. I think it's worth it!

Good luck and like others have pointed it, recs are always a good thing. They may be able to help the chapter see more about you than just your age.

Also, if it makes you feel any better, there are girls that joined some chapters on my campus as 21 year old juniors and turned 22 shortly afterwards.