Re-Initiating

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by smiley21

****We should sticky a thread like this at the top of this forum or the recruitment forum, so people can stop asking this question.

I think we need a really good, concise FAQ thread, that's not 80 pages long. And (yes coming from the queen of snark) it needs to be non-snarky.

Maybe a mod can start and lock it, and add questions as they are thought of.

And I'm talking things like:

Q: I joined an NPC, but now I hate it, can I join another one, and how would anyone know??
A: You may not under any circumstance join another NPC after you've been initiated. No, there isn't a database, but your chances of getting found out are high.

Short and to the point questions and answers.

[HeatherH84]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I think we need a really good, concise FAQ thread, that's not 80 pages long. And (yes coming from the queen of snark) it needs to be non-snarky.

Maybe a mod can start and lock it, and add questions as they are thought of.

And I'm talking things like:

Q: I joined an NPC, but now I hate it, can I join another one, and how would anyone know??
A: You may not under any circumstance join another NPC after you've been initiated. No, there isn't a database, but your chances of getting found out are high.

Short and to the point questions and answers.

I have looked at a few threads but the problem is that there are a lot of different answers. I thought maybe if it asked again I might get the facts.

[HeatherH84]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I think we need a really good, concise FAQ thread, that's not 80 pages long. And (yes coming from the queen of snark) it needs to be non-snarky.

Maybe a mod can start and lock it, and add questions as they are thought of.

And I'm talking things like:

Q: I joined an NPC, but now I hate it, can I join another one, and how would anyone know??
A: You may not under any circumstance join another NPC after you've been initiated. No, there isn't a database, but your chances of getting found out are high.

Short and to the point questions and answers.

If there isnt a datbase or anything how would her chances of being found out be high?

[PeppyGPhiB]

It probably depends on the school she/you go to, or wherever she's transfering to. Unless she's transfering to a school far away, it's likely there will be people "who know people" at her old school. People talk.

ETA: I just re-read your original post, and noticed that you didn't even mention transferring. Is she planning on staying at her school and re-rushing? Because she would definitely not get away with that.

[LPIDelta]

I know of a situation where, even though the woman transferred long distance, she was found out. There are pictures....people talk.....guilt gets to people....it happens. And in the case I know about, she had to disaffilate from BOTH groups leaving her without membership at all.

If being in a sorority is a big deal to you friend, then she needs to consider a local OR she needs to stick it out. I get it--she was mislead, but she also took an oath and she has the power to make things better if she stays put.

[AChiOhSnap]

Originally Posted by HeatherH84

If there isnt a datbase or anything how would her chances of being found out be high?

There was a girl at my campus that transferred after initiating and signed up for recruitment at another school. Someone from her old school found out that she was going through recruitment again -- friends of friends and all -- and called the Greek Life office at her new school. They made a few phone calls and sure enough, she was unceremoniously kicked out of recruitment. It looked really, really bad for her. It was not a good situation all around, but she was convinced she could fly under the radar.

I also wouldn't rule out that you could get in trouble if you allowed her to be initiated into your sorority and you knew that she was already affiliated. I actually think you could get in really, really big trouble. Tread carefully.

[Xidelt]

why doesn't your friend transfer and affiliate with a different chapter of Delta Zeta? Chapters can really vary from campus to campus. Just because she isn't happy in her chapter of DZ doesn't mean she wouldn't feel at home someplace else.

[smiley21]

I am not sure if this is the same school or not. I find it hard to believe that it is the same school because what makes her think that this other sorority would want her? She acts as if the only thing in her way is the fact that she was already initiated in another sorority. Wouldn't the other girls already know about this girl?

Originally Posted by smiley21

I am not sure if this is the same school or not. I find it hard to believe that it is the same school because what makes her think that this other sorority would want her? She acts as if the only thing in her way is the fact that she was already initiated in another sorority. Wouldn't the other girls already know about this girl?

The OP stated in the first post that her friend is at another school.

HeatherH84 -- there is no black or white answer to your question. The facts have been presented to you, you know the rules, and my advice would be to tell your friend that she shouldn't go through with it. If she tries to join your sorority, let her know that you have an obligation as a member of your organization to maintain its integrity.

The fact that she's being disloyal to her organization (regardless of the circumstances) is a red flag in itself. What makes you think she'll be a loyal asset to your sorority?

Keep in mind that college is only for a few years. The DZ sisterhood lasts a lifetime, and while her current situation is not the most ideal, there are plenty of other sisters out there.

You know it's wrong. And you know what to do. I don't see why you have to question it any further.

[smiley21]

Originally Posted by OTW

The OP stated in the first post that her friend is at another school.

I totally forgot about that part of the post. oops.

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by HeatherH84

If there isnt a datbase or anything how would her chances of being found out be high?

There is a database.