What to tell a girl who didn't get a bid

[PhoenixAzul]

Holy relevant thread, batman.

I'm a Rho Chi this year, and today was preference signing. Since it's 5 pm and I haven't gotten a call from Panhel, I'm assuming all of my girls are matched and sorted in some way (thank you, God!). But what we told the girls before they went to signing was,

"look girls, we want you all to be sisters to someone. But unfortunately, it doesn't always work out, for various reasons (quota, bid lists, human error, zodiac sign, whatever). We encourage you to try again next year, and to get involved on campus and to remain friends with girls you've met through this process. If you need to yell at someone or vent or need a cup of coffee, give us a call and we'll be there. Whole day is clear for you. "

It sucks. I should know. I didn't get invited to final party, and I got "the call" on bid day. But I received a supplemental bid (sort of a snap bid), to the sorority of my dreams. It does work out, it does happen. It does hurt. No one ever said it would be easy.

I think that perhaps girls would be better served by a disclaimer in the pre-rush literature about the realities of not getting a bid, alternative options, why girls cannot discuss membership selection, etc.