What to tell a girl who didn't get a bid

actually, the how to join section isn't about tips. it's about the process. for example step one is participating in recruitment, and step two is accepting a bid and getting your new member pin. and a lot of girls have found it helpful because at my school most girls don't come to college knowing everything about sororities and greek life in general. everything in the booklet is questions that we have been asked in the past and things on our website like the history of our chapter and what our philanthropies are. it's not like I'm telling the girls how to act and what shoes to wear. if you notice i said the booklet is about the sorority and how to join, not "how to get in."

and i don't plan on rubbing it in the face of girls who didn't get a bid. i'm going to give this "insert" to the members of my sorority in case this girl approaches one of them and asks why she didn't get a bid. and i'm sure she will because she already made a face book note about it. i don't want the members of the sorority put in an awkward spot in which they do not know what to say. my school is so small many girls see her at least once a day and have classes with her. almost all of the members of my sorority thought this was a good idea. this way they either know what to say to her or they can give this insert to her.

thanks for answering my question.

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Originally Posted by jessicaelaine

actually, the how to join section isn't about tips. it's about the process. for example step one is participating in recruitment, and step two is accepting a bid and getting your new member pin. and a lot of girls have found it helpful because at my school most girls don't come to college knowing everything about sororities and greek life in general. everything in the booklet is questions that we have been asked in the past and things on our website like the history of our chapter and what our philanthropies are. it's not like I'm telling the girls how to act and what shoes to wear. if you notice i said the booklet is about the sorority and how to join, not "how to get in."

and i don't plan on rubbing it in the face of girls who didn't get a bid. i'm going to give this "insert" to the members of my sorority in case this girl approaches one of them and asks why she didn't get a bid. and i'm sure she will because she already made a face book note about it. i don't want the members of the sorority put in an awkward spot in which they do not know what to say. my school is so small many girls see her at least once a day and have classes with her. almost all of the members of my sorority thought this was a good idea. this way they either know what to say to her or they can give this insert to her.

thanks for answering my question.

Umm, couldn't your slip of paper possibly conflict with some NPC rules? Like that membership selection is private? I'm sure there's probably no rule against saying to a PNM "I'm really sorry, it's always very difficult for sororities to make these decisions and it's not always an easy one for us" and leave it at that. If you say stuff about how they may have not let their true personalities shine through or that they might have not met enough women, this could get really, really sticky. And if I can be perfectly honest, I think if I were a disappointed PNM it could come across as condescending. I know that's not the intention but that's how it would rub off.

I think it's probably a good idea to just coach your chapter members to say something really vague so you don't get in trouble. And run anything by your Greek advisor before you do anything so you don't get in trouble with your panhel or your HQs.