North vs South

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by JeffersonStKKG

Though I am a Floridian, I was raised as my mother was---a Tennessean. I even went to the same boarding/prep. school she (as well as a really great actress...) attended in Nashville, Harpeth Hall. I came out (to society...dirty minds ), took etiquette classes and attended Cotillion. Now, I join my mother in our Junior League chapter. One would assume from the aforementioned statements that I am a prissy woman; however, I have been an athlete my entire life---through college. Still, I incorporate everyday graciousness in my life and remain close with the lessons I have learned.

Well, that explains your pretentious bullshit...

[James]

Thats seems like a bit of a . . . uhm . . . strong reaction to her post.

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Well, that explains your pretentious bullshit...

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by James

Thats seems like a bit of a . . . uhm . . . strong reaction to her post.

Well, James... Seeing as how you don't live in TN and have never met the snotty prisses that Harpeth Hall tends to turn out, I understand how you'd think this was a strong reaction.

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Well, James... Seeing as how you don't live in TN and have never met the snotty prisses that Harpeth Hall tends to turn out, I understand how you'd think this was a strong reaction.

Just wondering how you know that He does not live where you think He lives?

Are You physic?

Nothhng supprises Me anymore for from those in the know.

[Dionysus]

Re: This thread, beer etiquette thread, and Tom's random threads.

Thank you all for entertaining me today.

Some of you would have fun on etiquettehell.com's message board.

[James]

Its in my Location Tom . . .

Originally Posted by Tom Earp

Just wondering how you know that He does not live where you think He lives?

Are You physic?

Nothhng supprises Me anymore for from those in the know.

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by James

Its in my Location Tom . . .

SMACK!

[PhoenixAzul]

I HATE being called "Honey" or "baby" or "Darlin". It's patronizing and I refuse to respond to it. We past the time when that was acceptable a long time ago. Strangers aren't anything to me, and I resent being called something like that by someone I have no connection to. Baby itself is demeaning...it implies to me that you think I'm a child. I don't allow my boyfriend to address me as baby, honey or darling...he knows I was given a perfectly good name. Honey is one of those things I find fake. "Oh honey, could you be a doll and do this for me?". Um, no. I'm NOT a doll, and you can handle it yourself, thank you very much. If it is a hospitality situation, something like, "Miss, I'm sorry, but I can't seem to find (x), could you help me?". Perfectly fine, no problem...but don't throw in all the fake sugar to get what you want. Ask me directly, it's part of my job, but it is not part of my job to be called ridiculous names. "miss" is fine, or even read the nametag and address me by my name.

I don't like ceremony for ceremony's sake or doing things because "that's how its always been done" or "because people expect it", and I think a lot of the social traditions and stuff are out of date. Also, manners for manners sake in order to present yourself as "upper____" is silly. If dog crap is covered with gold, it's still crap. Present yourself as _______ through your actions (not ceremonial manners) and through your words (being articulate and well read).

I also don't think that any one region has a monopoly on manners. I think that there are a very few basic manners that need to be observed. Here's my big ones:

1) Smile and at least nod when making eye contact on the street.
2) GIVE A FIRM HANDSHAKE. What I hate is a weak handshake. Women are the worst about this...the limp noodle handshake in church just doesn't say "peace be with you" to me. Firm handshakes please.
3) Please, thank you, when appropriate and even sometimes when not.
4) Hold doors for everyone...women for women, men for men, men for women, women for men. Holding doors, or at least not letting it slam on the person behind you is just plain nice.

That's about it.

[Lady of Pearl]

Manners is Manners whether North or South. In fact, I was born in the North attended a Southern University for college-believe me the people I knew down South were very particular about their manners. I once made the mistake of calling an older cousin by her first name and was promptly corrected! she is Miss so and so to you and I considered myself an adult at that time! LOL