What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[33girl]

After reading this thread, I understand why you guys have so much time to be on GC.

(badump-ump)

[ragtimerose]

What would raise a red flag for me is someone who doesn't understand that I have a chronic illness, and doesn't take time to understand the illness and the nature of it.

It's a part of who I am as a person, and if my date doesn't take the time to understand me, then the relationship is no good.

I'm happy to say that my SO of 16 years is very understanding. He's been with me through all the good, bad, and ugly that my having bipolar disorder can bring. Thank goodness the relationship is one of the stable things in my life.

I could go on. But I won't.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by ragtimerose

What would raise a red flag for me is someone who doesn't understand that I have a chronic illness, and doesn't take time to understand the illness and the nature of it.

It's a part of who I am as a person, and if my date doesn't take the time to understand me, then the relationship is no good.

I'm happy to say that my SO of 16 years is very understanding. He's been with me through all the good, bad, and ugly that my having bipolar disorder can bring. Thank goodness the relationship is one of the stable things in my life.

I could go on. But I won't.

Good for you, I'm still looking for someone who can look past that without ignoring it.

[bichonl]

Oh, where to start?

1. Disheveled appearance
2. Convincing me to wear a fanny pack instead of carrying a purse
3. Picking teeth
4. Nose hair
5. B.O.
6. Announcing that your nipple was sliced off
7. Chewing with the mouth open


In June, I went on a date with a guy from an internet dating site who did, indeed, commit all these sins. And yet it's my fault that I tried to walk off!

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by bichonl

Oh, where to start?

1. Disheveled appearance
2. Convincing me to wear a fanny pack instead of carrying a purse
3. Picking teeth
4. Nose hair
5. B.O.
6. Announcing that your nipple was sliced off
7. Chewing with the mouth open


In June, I went on a date with a guy from an internet dating site who did, indeed, commit all these sins. And yet it's my fault that I tried to walk off!

you wore a fanny pack? that would raise a red flag for me

j/k

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

This is insane, you'll ditch a guy because he watches soaps?

I already ditched a guy for watching soaps. He would say he was coming over to our house to visit me, but he would really want to come over to watch his soap on HDTV. What a dork!

[Jimmy Choo]

Originally Posted by bichonl

Oh, where to start?

1. Disheveled appearance
2. Convincing me to wear a fanny pack instead of carrying a purse
3. Picking teeth
4. Nose hair
5. B.O.
6. Announcing that your nipple was sliced off
7. Chewing with the mouth open


In June, I went on a date with a guy from an internet dating site who did, indeed, commit all these sins. And yet it's my fault that I tried to walk off!

I'm more alarmed her shared with you that his nipple was sliced off!! That is something straight out of a Jeff Foxworthy skit!

[JonInKC]

When at a bar, she drops something and bends over to pick it up. Then some random dude walking by sees the top of her head and is all "Hey, I know her".

[SxyLady07]

Red flags for me:

Definitely someone who isn't supported in my current health condition, faith in Christ, bad breath, conceitedness, etc...I am half asleep so I don't feel like typing a full list of yellow and red flags...

[winnieb]

Originally Posted by JonInKC

When at a bar, she drops something and bends over to pick it up. Then some random dude walking by sees the top of her head and is all "Hey, I know her".

Damn Jon, I dont know how many times I have to apologize for that happening or how many time I have to tell you that he really didn't know me!!!

hahahahha!!!

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

1. Excessive body odor.
2. Repeated uses of the words "awesome", "dude", or the unstoppable discussion of their drug/alcohol use and the results while I am trying to eat dinner.
3. Make up.
4. Using internet slang in conversation, with the exception of "wtf". Because I find it amusing.
5. Tattoos that came from a stay in prison. Otherwise they are acceptable, in moderation.
6. Chain smoking.
7. They make me pay when they were the ones who asked me out. (I think whoever issued the invitation should pay.)
8. They are talking about marriage before dessert.
9. Discussion of ex girlfriends.
10. Discussion of ex boyfriends.

[AlphaFrog]

When they type "POS" and sign off real quick - that's a sucky end to a first date.



Just kidding.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

When they type "POS" and sign off real quick - that's a sucky end to a first date.



Just kidding.

hahaha, good one

[1908Revelations]

The last time I went out with a guy, I didn't really like the guy, but I decided to go. Well his breath was kung-fu fighting and he was staring at me the whole time during the movie! I thought what was too weird. He wouldn't look away, so I thought I had food in my teeth. He wanted to hold my hand and he was being waaaayyyy to clingy....this was the first and last time we went out.....I refuse to call it a date

[ΑΓΔSquirrel10]

I went out to lunch with this guy I met at college at the beginning of my freshmen year. We had talked before, and I thought he was very a cool guy, I really enjoyed talking to him, so I agreed to meet him for lunch one day. Well, I have NO IDEA what happened to him, but several factors turned me off. The boy was SO NERVOUS that he ate 2 bites of his food before throwing it away. It's ok to be nervous, but he showed no signs of loosening up around me. That didn't bother me as much as his obsession with internet cartoons!!!!! He kept going on and on about them, and then he started QUOTING THEM.....IN CARTOON VOICES!!!!!! People at tables around us were kinda looking over at us with "wtf" looks on their faces. Ugh...soooo embarrassing!!!