DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF'

KAY10 · #1 10-13-2006, 02:39 AM

You ladies should read this book called "Color Complex". It's really interesting. It talks about fraternities and sororities too. I guess back in the day XYZ frat and XYZ sorority would only pick lighter toned men and women. Check the book out if you've never heard of it. It's really deep. I think it's unfortunate that these kinds of things still go on. I don't think it's really that bad with black men, but with the women it's really bad.

A lot of people think I'm half black half white. I've had people think I'm Indian too. My parents are black.

I usually see women more attracted to darker men, but I usually see men more attracted to lighter women. Me? I like em' all.

cjoanell · #2 10-13-2006, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by KAY10

You ladies should read this book called "Color Complex". It's really interesting. It talks about fraternities and sororities too. I guess back in the day XYZ frat and XYZ sorority would only pick lighter toned men and women. Check the book out if you've never heard of it. It's really deep. I think it's unfortunate that these kinds of things still go on. I don't think it's really that bad with black men, but with the women it's really bad.

A lot of people think I'm half black half white. I've had people think I'm Indian too. My parents are black.

I usually see women more attracted to darker men, but I usually see men more attracted to lighter women. Me? I like em' all.

The sad part is when outside people look at you, they still fall into those stereotypes..... oh you're light, I take it you're a member of XYZ or you're a member of XYZ, you were the darkest on your line huh? CRAZY....

KAY10 · #3 10-13-2006, 11:58 PM

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The sad part is when outside people look at you, they still fall into those stereotypes..... oh you're light, I take it you're a member of XYZ or you're a member of XYZ, you were the darkest on your line huh? CRAZY....

I feel ya. It is sad. Both my parents are from the south too. My father is dark and my mom is light.
Have you ever heard of the Willie Lynch theory? Before the Civil War Willie Lynch wrote a letter and it was basically a letter to keep blacks separate. That part of the whole light/dark thing. It's in that book I was talking about.

cjoanell · #4 10-14-2006, 10:08 AM

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I feel ya. It is sad. Both my parents are from the south too. My father is dark and my mom is light.
Have you ever heard of the Willie Lynch theory? Before the Civil War Willie Lynch wrote a letter and it was basically a letter to keep blacks separate. That part of the whole light/dark thing. It's in that book I was talking about.

Mom B'ham and Dad Orangeburg, S.C..... I know all about it.

PrettyBoy · #5 10-15-2006, 12:22 AM

I don't really think African American fraternities and sororities are still like this, but I know years ago XYZ sorority had a test called the brown paper bag test. If an interest was darker than the brown paper bag she would not have a chance of getting selected. That made me wonder if greek organizations made this problem worse. I don't think it's like that now, at least I would hope not.

nonchalant · #6 10-15-2006, 01:18 PM

I believe this is still an issue. Most of this stems from peoples upbringing as well as their surroundings. As stated in a previous thread, I was raised to think light is right. There isn't a need to put a paper bag next to me, for my mother didn't allow us to play in the daylight. Once you grow and become educated and open-minded, you realize those things were petty. I still love my light skinned pretty boys over the chocolate men. Now that's just a personal preference.

cjoanell · #7 10-16-2006, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by nonchalant

I believe this is still an issue. Most of this stems from peoples upbringing as well as their surroundings. As stated in a previous thread, I was raised to think light is right. There isn't a need to put a paper bag next to me, for my mother didn't allow us to play in the daylight. Once you grow and become educated and open-minded, you realize those things were petty. I still love my light skinned pretty boys over the chocolate men. Now that's just a personal preference.

PrettyBoy · #8 10-18-2006, 02:33 AM

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Originally Posted by nonchalant

I believe this is still an issue. Most of this stems from peoples upbringing as well as their surroundings. As stated in a previous thread, I was raised to think light is right. There isn't a need to put a paper bag next to me, for my mother didn't allow us to play in the daylight. Once you grow and become educated and open-minded, you realize those things were petty. I still love my light skinned pretty boys over the chocolate men. Now that's just a personal preference.

Was your mom from the South? It seems like that's where a lot of this stuff is still happening.