Would you marry someone in the military?

[dekeguy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

An outsider judging your preference could say "I don't admire a man who would settle for internal beauty when the complete package of internal and external beauty is out there."

See--preferences and things that go along with our ideals and expectations are what this thread is about. You're not under a social contract to date or marry "internally unattractive" women. That doesn't mean you don't acknowledge that such women are probably making some contributions to this world and making some other men happy, though.

I didn't realize that I was settling for anything. I thought I was choosing the one whose total persona was attractive to me. I certainly do not consider myself under any social contract to date "internally unattractive" women. To me internally attractive is just as, if not more so, important as external appearance. As my Grand Dad used to say, one must ask what sort of man would prefer jeunne beaujolais to a richly complex claret. Even when I was a small boy I understood that he was not talking about wine.