liltrixx rush at UCF - Page 16

DeltaBetaBaby · #**226** 10-02-2006, 01:48 PM

Okay, but if I am active in a chapter that knows it will have spaces open, and my best friend is rushing, there is nothing that says I can't put the option on the table BEFORE the rush period starts. It is dirty, and I wouldn't do it, but technically against the rules? Probably not. Especially if you don't promise.

Hegemon · #**227** 10-02-2006, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Okay, but if I am active in a chapter that knows it will have spaces open, and my best friend is rushing, there is nothing that says I can't put the option on the table BEFORE the rush period starts. It is dirty, and I wouldn't do it, but technically against the rules? Probably not. Especially if you don't promise.

I think it is still against the rules. You aren't supposed to EVER promise a girl a bid, even it is before the rush period, even if it is your best friend. I believe it's still considered dirty rushing and thus against the rules.

DeltaBetaBaby · #**228** 10-02-2006, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Hegemon

I think it is still against the rules. You aren't supposed to EVER promise a girl a bid, even it is before the rush period, even if it is your best friend. I believe it's still considered dirty rushing and thus against the rules.

Right, but if you don't *promise* a bid, you just tell her that you are certain your chapter will be doing COR, what rule have you broken?

Again, it is dirty, and I wouldn't advise a chapter to do it, I am just saying that it is a problem I've seen with SIP. IMO, if you SIP a chapter, you should not be eligible for a bid there in the same year.

AlphaFrog · #**229** 10-02-2006, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

IMO, if you SIP a chapter, you should not be eligible for a bid there in the same year.

Now that's just overboard. Especially when you have a campus that only has a few groups. If you SIP a chapter, it's pretty clear you have your heart set on that chapter, and shouldn't be excluded from pursuing that chapter if they have space available after formal. I agree that it could *possibly* leave the door open for dirty rushing, but it's just as easy for a sorority to tell a PNM to drop out of rush, and they'll bid them COB that way (yes, we did have a group that tried that at my school).

Either way, I'd personally be insulted if a sister told me to drop or SIP because they didn't have space at formal, but they'll make space for you at COB. I would tell that sister, "Either you want me bad enough for your bidlist, or go jump".

Ocalagirl · #**230** 10-02-2006, 06:42 PM

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Hegemon · #**231** 10-02-2006, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by liltrixx

Well just to settle this thread to rest, I am not rushing at any sorority at UCF this year. I will be going home at the end of the semester (fingers crossed that my apartment will sublease) and go home and re-evaluate where I stand, what I want to do, and pretty much take a semester off, though I am going to take two classes and try to raise my GPA. I will be re-applying to UF and possibly FSU...not sure if I will rush again (though there is a VERY good possibility). I am very at peace with my decision and feel that this semester was a learning one that I needed to take. My parents are very supportive and think I am doing the right thing. Thanks everyone for reading

Sorry we hijacked your thread. Good luck in your future plans!

Ocalagirl · #**232** 10-02-2006, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Hegemon

Sorry we hijacked your thread. Good luck in your future plans!

No problem...there was just no use in beating a dead horse over rushing and whatnot....We'll see how it goes (maybe) next year

FSUZeta · #**233** 10-02-2006, 08:01 PM

good luck with your gpa and your future plans!!

UGAalum94 · #**234** 10-02-2006, 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Either way, I'd personally be insulted if a sister told me to drop or SIP because they didn't have space at formal, but they'll make space for you at COB. I would tell that sister, "Either you want me bad enough for your bidlist, or go jump".

Me too. Why would you trust that you'd get a COB bid if you didn't get a bid during formal? If this was your best friend, and your chapter didn't want her enough to rank her high on the bid list, would you really want her waiting on COB?

liltrixx, good luck. I hope you enjoy the new school you go to!

EGAOPi · #**235** 10-13-2006, 02:30 PM

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well i just got the dreaded phone call and I have been released from recruitment...

I know it has been awhile since UCF's bid day, but I figure it isn't too late to give you some advice.
First of all, I am SO sorry that things didn't go as you planned. I know how painful it is to get your hopes up and have them torn down. Nothing is worse than the feeling of rejection, but don't let this situation negatively impact your self esteem.
On one hand, it may have been meant to be. I know people at UCF that aren't Greek and still manage to have a lot of fun. They have all joined co-ed fraternities for their majors and they go out with them all the time to party. They have connections outside of the world of sororities.
However, I know that being Greek has an incredible thing that I think everyone should get to experiene if given the chance. Ranking can be REALLY hard. It doesn't necessarily mean that no one wanted you--you may have just not matched up. Also, about suicide...I would've kept Scarlett around. It is hard to tell what a chapter is like just from the recruitment process, which is very quick and planned out. Once you're inside, you see things from a whole new view and it could turn out to be amazing. Since you weren't given a bid, you can go through spring recruitment. See if any houses you turned down originally or houses that you connected with do spring rush--maybe Scarlett IS worth another shot.
No matter what, know that college is an amazing experience and whether greek or not, there are so many ways to get involved. You are a very strong person and I'm impressed that you tried and stuck it out til the very end. <3

EGAOPi · #**236** 10-13-2006, 02:34 PM

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Well right now Alpha Epsilon Phi, Delta Gamma, and Kappa Kappa Gamma are participating in COR/COB. I plan on going to events to check them out...I am also thinking of doing it next year.

Well here's the revealing time!

1. Elizabeth - well after day one, I was very upset that I did not get an invite back from them...I loved it there and very much wanted to a sister.
2. Cindy - I was kinda sceptical going in, but I thought I really hit it off...however I was invited back to...
3. Debbie - This was my favorite GLO going into Recruitment and turned out to be one of faves all the way through. I think I was very upset by being turned down by...
4. Tammy - well this group I did really like, but wasn't sure if I fit in there but wanted to give it a shot. I thought I might be able to get invited back because I had to recs, but then I heard from herself that a triple legacy was cut after the second day from...
5. Aubrey - This group was amazing. They are huge and I really thought I wanted to check them out, however I was not invited back after day one to..
6. Lexi - This diverse group of women was one I thought I wanted to check out, but after the first day was not sure if it was for me. I guess they picked up on that even though I really wanted to be invited back to...
7. Katie - Straight away I knew I didn't belong but like the others wanted to give everyone a chance and I wanted to give ... a chance.
8. Scarlett - This was the second house I visited the first day and did not want to go back, but after I went back the second time I thought I could see myself as a...
9. Autumn - I ended up making it to pref rounds with this group and was VERY touched by their pref ceremony. I was already getting dressed to become a new sister of ... when I got the bad news.
10. Makynlee - this group I don't think I ever felt truly comfortable with. as much as I liked them, I felt like the minority since they were founded by jewish women and a lot of the women in this chapter are jewish. I found them to be awesome women as a whole, but did not felt I fit in at ... and did not want to dimish their sisterhood by putting them down.

It's obvious that Makynlee is AEPhi and I can honestly tell you that they would not have looked down on your for not being Jewish. They are amazing girls and would have welcomed you, honestly. A girl I used to go to Hebrew school with is actually one of their founding sisters at UCF.
I am Jewish and I'm one of 2 Jewish girls in my sorority and I never feel like the minority, so I think you would've felt the same once you were in it. If they do do spring rush, please check them out!

adpiucf · #**237** 10-13-2006, 02:36 PM

She's decided to leave the university after less than a semester, so it's a moot point. She will be leaving UCF as of Winter Break. Check the date of the posts-- you can catch yourself that way b/c sometimes people post updates elsewhere.

EGAOPi · #**238** 10-13-2006, 02:54 PM

I see that now, sorry. It looked like the posts were from just a couple weeks ago so I wasn't sure if anything was concrete.

to the original poster, best of luck in whatever you decide to do. i have friends at fsu, uf and ucf and they all absolutely love their schools. some of them are greek, some of them aren't and many of them have rushed and been turned down, just like you. i actually have a friend at fsu that is going thru as a second semester junior for the local sorority up there. that may be an option for you, depending on where you go. best of luck in school and everything else! <3

UF56 · #**239** 10-13-2006, 04:25 PM

EGAOTT what school are you at?

Ocalagirl · #**240** 10-14-2006, 11:12 AM

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