did i pick the right bid?

[AlphaFrog]

Another option to consider:

You're not eligible to re-rush for 1 year anyway, so you can wait it out. Keep pledging this semester, and if at the time of initation, you don't feel you're ready, you can ask to continue your new member period into the next semester. If by spring semester, you're still having serious doubts, you can still drop and rush in the fall. It's not the best of situation, but it's definetly better then initating when you're not ready, and then becoming "that girl" that brings the chapter down, or just dissappears into the woodwork.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Another option to consider:

You're not eligible to re-rush for 1 year anyway, so you can wait it out. Keep pledging this semester, and if at the time of initation, you don't feel you're ready, you can ask to continue your new member period into the next semester. If by spring semester, you're still having serious doubts, you can still drop and rush in the fall.

I agree, and if you are having doubts, DO NOT GET INITIATED. If you are looking at other groups and wishing that you were somewhere else, DO NOT GET INITIATED. Once you are initiated into an NPC group, that is it. No 2nd chances. So, don't get pressured into anything. That is all.

That being said, if you drop and then rush again in the fall, (with the caveat that I don't know how competitive your school is), you might have a difficult time securing a bid from a different house. You may be viewed as (sorry...), "damaged goods" for going with another house and then dropping them. It's not my intention to be harsh, but I just wanted to offer the non-sunshine blowing viewpoint.

I hope you have a happy ending, because my "story" is very similar to yours.

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Another option to consider:

You're not eligible to re-rush for 1 year anyway, so you can wait it out. Keep pledging this semester, and if at the time of initation, you don't feel you're ready, you can ask to continue your new member period into the next semester. If by spring semester, you're still having serious doubts, you can still drop and rush in the fall. It's not the best of situation, but it's definetly better then initating when you're not ready, and then becoming "that girl" that brings the chapter down, or just dissappears into the woodwork.

Question, if she were to drop in the spring, how the heck could she rush in the fall? That's not a year. So we aren't doing a total mini-hijack, could someone please pm me the answer. I'm a little confused.



As for the situation at hand, I've felt the exact same way. That's life, you always wonder about the "road not taken". I definately felt the way you are when things were pretty down in my life and I had some negative feelings regarding ADPi. Eventually my life got better and the negative feelings disappeared.

I can guarantee that you aren't going like everything about your sorority. Your going to see things, hear things that you're thinking "why are we doing this? What is going on?". A sorority membership is for life. It's just not for your four years of college. If there is something you don't like, that you know can be changed (ie. ritual cannot), stay involved, run for office. When you graduate join the alum association. Like someone pointed out already, new members join, new officers are elected so things change.

I would recommend talking to a sister you trust (and who you know will keep what you say to herself). Express your concerns and your fears. I'm sure she probably felt the same way. I would also recommend sticking it out. But with that being said, if you still feel uncomfortable when initiation rolls around, DO NOT INITIATE! Because, again, once you are an initiated member of an NPC that's it. No return to go, no collecting of $200 (my monopoly reference ).

[Elephant Walk]

depledge.

[kstar]

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Question, if she were to drop in the spring, how the heck could she rush in the fall? That's not a year. So we aren't doing a total mini-hijack, could someone please pm me the answer. I'm a little confused.



As for the situation at hand, I've felt the exact same way. That's life, you always wonder about the "road not taken". I definately felt the way you are when things were pretty down in my life and I had some negative feelings regarding ADPi. Eventually my life got better and the negative feelings disappeared.

I can guarantee that you aren't going like everything about your sorority. Your going to see things, hear things that you're thinking "why are we doing this? What is going on?". A sorority membership is for life. It's just not for your four years of college. If there is something you don't like, that you know can be changed (ie. ritual cannot), stay involved, run for office. When you graduate join the alum association. Like someone pointed out already, new members join, new officers are elected so things change.

I would recommend talking to a sister you trust (and who you know will keep what you say to herself). Express your concerns and your fears. I'm sure she probably felt the same way. I would also recommend sticking it out. But with that being said, if you still feel uncomfortable when initiation rolls around, DO NOT INITIATE! Because, again, once you are an initiated member of an NPC that's it. No return to go, no collecting of $200 (my monopoly reference ).

As I understand it, it is a yar from the date you accept your bid, not a year from when you depledge.