did i pick the right bid?

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It's a very normal feeling, even if you got your top choice, first choice, etc., to question your decision and your bid. This can happen on and off during the new member period, immediately following initiation, and especially during the first year as a sister on "the other side" once you've been through a formal recruitment as an initiated member. And then of course, there are other pressures in life like school, family, internships, etc., that tend to make you question your committment to the organization.

Each year, chapters bring in new members, elect new officers and change their group dynamic with these new people and new ideas. There can be conflicting opinions or some internal drama, even among the perceived top chapters, that makes people question their membership.

You'll experience these same feelings out in the workforce, and I'm sure even time to time as a child you questioned if you were even in the right family because of some stress or craziness.

The best way to combat this issue is to come around and make friends within your organization and to take on a small leadership role-- this will get you involved and feeling like you're getting your time and money's worth. However, there's a such thing as too much of a good thing. Definitely invest time in an outside activity that has nothing to do with Greek life so you have an escape from the Sorority World when you need it-- a campus club, athletics or volunteer project are some good outlets.

If your feelings persist, you're not enjoying your membership and you've made a concerted effort to come around, make friends and get involved on a committee or a project that supports your chapter, maybe you really aren't cut out for this kind of group dynamic-- that's when it is time to consider cancelling your membership. But I wouldn't suggest that at this stage unless you're just desperately unhappy and dislike absolutely everything about the sorority experience. Good luck, hang in there and show your face at more than just the chapter meetings! Remember that school comes first, have a non-Greek social outlet to keep you balanced and volunteer for a project with some sisters.