Californiagirls's Recruitment thread!

[UGAalum94]

What happened in the most famous case? What got her into trouble?

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

What happened the in the most famous case? What got her into trouble?

Out of respect to her and to the two sororities involved, I'd rather not discuss her situation publicly. Longtime GCers know what I'm talking about, though.

I only do this because she and I exchanged PMs quite a bit back then and it was a heartbreaking situation all around.

All I will say is that "DISCRETION IS KEY!" started around the time this PNM depledged her sorority.

[UGAalum94]

It's not that I doubt that you, OTW, have the PNM's best interests at heart, but really now, why'd you bring up the most famous case only to say that you can't discuss it?

I understand that your knowledge may go beyond what was public, and so, in good conscience, you don't want to fill me in, but why post an enigmatic reference in the first place?


Maybe we can try this instead:
Can a rush story be told in such a way as to:
enhance the PNM's rush experience,
captivate Greek Chat readers,
provide feedback to chapters during rush (even in a general sense)?
If so, how? If not, why?

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

Maybe we can try this instead:
Can a rush story be told in such a way as to:
enhance the PNM's rush experience,
captivate Greek Chat readers,
provide feedback to chapters during rush (even in a general sense)?
If so, how? If not, why?

It can be, and it has been done, but a PNM has to be careful. Seems like a lot of people already know the school she is at without her saying anything, and the fact that she is a double legacy will make it easy for an alum (or active) from the campus to figure out who she is....and if she says anything bad about a sorority, it might get around.

On a public fourm like this you just have to be careful what you say.

To the OP, post or not, that's your call, but maybe you cna give at least a small run down (I was invited back to ABC, XYZ, and DC today....I'm having tons of fun...etc) even if you don't want to go into more detial then that. Good luck and have fun.

[thetygerlily]

I agree that discretion is important, but it's also possible for Californiagirl to share her story without being found out. Specifics like clothing, decorations, conversation topics, house descriptions, etc aren't necessary- just saying "this house really impressed me- I think they are all really great and I clicked instantly with the women I met", "I'm still unsure about whether this group is for me", and "I don't think this is the right group for me" is great! It'll be a reminder for her when she looks back on everything, and if someone does find out which house is which... does it necessarily matter? Nothing negative said- not every group is for every woman, or there would just be one big sorority!

It's up to you, Californiagirl, but many women have shared their stories on GC without any issues. So long as you remain respectful and don't trash any of the groups, you should be fine! Even if you don't want to post your experience until the end, and only translate the "winning" house, that's fine. Recruitment stories certainly help those of us adicts get our fix... but they're also great for you to record your experience, get advice/support as necessary, and look back on everything several years down the road. I wish I had found it before I joined- I would love to see what I was thinking back then!

Just my two cents.

[CaliforniaGirl7]

Actually I wouldn't want anyone to beg me, and I can post by whatever rules I like. I can say I'm going to UCLA and I am a double legacy. I know what the consequences are for not being discreet, and therefore whatever happens I can only blame myself. However, due to some comments made about my identity I have chosen not to post my story. I honestly don't feel that it is safe for me to share my opinions on this forum. I don't see anything wrong with that. I honestly hope that most sororities don't treat all PNMs this way.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by CaliforniaGirl7

Actually I wouldn't want anyone to beg me, and I can post by whatever rules I like. I can say I'm going to UCLA and I am a double legacy. I know what the consequences are for not being discreet, and therefore whatever happens I can only blame myself. However, due to some comments made about my identity I have chosen not to post my story. I honestly don't feel that it is safe for me to share my opinions on this forum. I don't see anything wrong with that. I honestly hope that most sororities don't treat all PNMs this way.

It is your choice. Do let us know where you end up. Or even a short play by play after the fact if you feel comfortable. Sometimes we get all wrapped up in the "should she/shouldn't she" stuff, that we push the PNM out of the actual discussion.

Have a fantastic rush!

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

It's not that I doubt that you, OTW, have the PNM's best interests at heart, but really now, why'd you bring up the most famous case only to say that you can't discuss it?

I understand that your knowledge may go beyond what was public, and so, in good conscience, you don't want to fill me in, but why post an enigmatic reference in the first place?


Maybe we can try this instead:
Can a rush story be told in such a way as to:
enhance the PNM's rush experience,
captivate Greek Chat readers,
provide feedback to chapters during rush (even in a general sense)?
If so, how? If not, why?

PNMs should know first and foremost that they take a risk of getting found out if they post their story on GC. It doesn't matter if they're a campus of 100 girls rushing or 1400 girls rushing. I don't say this to scare them, I say this to make them aware of it.

I brought up the poor PNM as an example that this could happen because it has happened. I'm not obligated in any way to discuss it in detail. I'm sure longtime GCers will remember her story, and if they want to throw it out there, go ahead. If that's not good enough for you, then too bad. DEAL WITH IT.

And regarding your last sentence...CurlyGurly's rush thread from 2002. There's your answer.