Bad Boys - Page 3

AlphaFrog · #1 09-11-2006, 01:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

You know what? I think it would annoy me too. Once or twice would be a nice gesture, but I couldn't take it all the time. Just sit your azz down. LOL

I had an ex that I would literally race to the car because it got annoying that he would always open the car door for me.

KAY10 · #2 09-13-2006, 01:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

You know what? I think it would annoy me too. Once or twice would be a nice gesture, but I couldn't take it all the time. Just sit your azz down. LOL

LOL. O.K. that's funny and I'm laughing. The funny thing about this is if a guy doesn't do this and the woman sees another guy doing this for his woman, then she'll give him the silent treatment, and ask him "why don't you pull the chair out for me." You know that's the truth too.

KAY10 · #3 09-13-2006, 12:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by valkyrie

Yet again, this is a matter of personal preference. If a guy tried to take my coat off for me or pull out my chair, I'd be very annoyed.

And what does it mean to support someone physically or spiritually?

Today, most woman would be very annoyed at this.

Spiritual can be whatever the woman is going through. It can be anything emotional. Physically means he should be able to fulfill her physical needs. What ever they may be.

valkyrie · #4 09-13-2006, 11:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KAY10

Today, most woman would be very annoyed at this.

Spiritual can be whatever the woman is going through. It can be anything emotional. Physically means he should be able to fulfill her physical needs. What ever they may be.

Eyeroll right back atcha, homes.

As for meeting spiritual/emotional/physical needs, I'm of the opinion that BOTH people in a relationship need to do that.

WVU alpha phi · #5 08-31-2006, 07:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KAY10

Hey fellas have you ever heard this: "Oh he's cute and all, he's just too nice." What the hell.

Wow, that's one of my favorite lines. I LOVE A CHALLENGE, and the second someone doesn't give me one by showing interest in me, I'm disappointed. It actually really sucks being like this, and right now I'm talking to a "nice guy" and I keep complaining to my friends that it's boring, and they're like, "no, he's normal, give him a chance."

preciousjeni · #6 08-31-2006, 08:45 PM

In my own life, I've come to discover that I liked being with guys who were nasty to me because I wanted the drama. It kept them at a distance so I could protect my heart. I now have a "nice guy" with whom I can really be vulnerable. That's what I wanted all along but I was just scared.

mulattogyrl · #7 09-01-2006, 08:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

In my own life, I've come to discover that I liked being with guys who were nasty to me because I wanted the drama. It kept them at a distance so I could protect my heart. I now have a "nice guy" with whom I can really be vulnerable. That's what I wanted all along but I was just scared.

You hit the nail on the head right here.

KAY10 · #8 09-02-2006, 03:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

In my own life, I've come to discover that I liked being with guys who were nasty to me because I wanted the drama. It kept them at a distance so I could protect my heart. I now have a "nice guy" with whom I can really be vulnerable. That's what I wanted all along but I was just scared.

What were you afraid of.

preciousjeni · #9 09-06-2006, 02:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KAY10

What were you afraid of.

For me, there have been a number of things both on the surface and deeper down. One issue is faithfulness. Would I be cheated on? The worst type of cheating is the emotional kind. Physical cheating is horrible, but honestly, I'd prefer it over emotional cheating.

Trust is also a serious concern. Can I tell this guy my hopes and dreams? Will he laugh at me? Will he steal them?

When I was with the bad boys, I never had to worry about them cheating emotionally (though they did cheat physically) because they didn't have enough depth to get to that point with me or anyone else. As for trust, I never shared my most precious thoughts and desires with them and they never asked for that information.

A good man, to me, is one who will guard our relationship with physical, mental, emotional and spiritual protection. But, that includes allowing me to be vulnerable without fear of attack or betrayal. So, he's got to have a good heart. I wanted a complete man...one who was manly, but also one who had the depth to really understand me. And, that's what I have.

Rudey · #10 09-06-2006, 02:40 PM

I have said "Am I gonna have to choke a bitch" to many girls, and not a single one understood where it was from and they all probably thought I was psycho.

-Rudey
--Why do white people like Wayne Brady so much?

KAY10 · #11 09-01-2006, 07:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WVU alpha phi

Wow, that's one of my favorite lines. I LOVE A CHALLENGE, and the second someone doesn't give me one by showing interest in me, I'm disappointed. It actually really sucks being like this, and right now I'm talking to a "nice guy" and I keep complaining to my friends that it's boring, and they're like, "no, he's normal, give him a chance."

Sorry guy's I forgot to stick this thread in the dating section. I'm still new at this.

But anyway, that's my point. Women tend to do this at a young age, and then when they (not all) get older they want a nice guy who they can raise a family with. I can't have that. I just can't go behind a thug. If you're bored with this guy mabey you should go ahead and dump him, because you know if Mr. Bad Boy shows up you'll have interest in him.

ThetaLove · #12 09-14-2006, 01:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KAY10

" he's just too nice."

I don't understand how someone can truly be "too nice." However, I don't like dating guys that I could take advantage of. Of course I want a guy to go along with things (if they are within reason) and he knows it will make me happy. But I couldn't be with a guy that agreed with everything I said or wanted to do.

I don't like a bad boy at all, though.
I think for most women it all boils down to accepting shit from men because that is all they think they can get.

KAY10 · #13 09-18-2006, 04:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ThetaLove

I don't understand how someone can truly be "too nice." However, I don't like dating guys that I could take advantage of. Of course I want a guy to go along with things (if they are within reason) and he knows it will make me happy. But I couldn't be with a guy that agreed with everything I said or wanted to do.

I don't like a bad boy at all, though.
I think for most women it all boils down to accepting shit from men because that is all they think they can get.

If the guy was nice to you, why would you try to take advantage of him? I think women like the bad boys just because, not because they think that's all they can get.

OtterXO · #14 09-18-2006, 11:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KAY10

If the guy was nice to you, why would you try to take advantage of him? I think women like the bad boys just because, not because they think that's all they can get.

OMG. She wasn't saying she's a horrible person who would take advantage of someone when given the chance. She means that she wants a man who can stand up for himself, not "yes" her to death and have an opinion that isn't directly dependent on HER opinion. She doesn't want a guy who is a freaking doormat because IT'S NOT AN ATTRACTIVE QUALITY. I've heard plenty of guys say that they want the same thing in a woman, so this isn't only about men.

KAY10 · #15 09-19-2006, 05:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OtterXO

OMG. She wasn't saying she's a horrible person who would take advantage of someone when given the chance. She means that she wants a man who can stand up for himself, not "yes" her to death and have an opinion that isn't directly dependent on HER opinion. She doesn't want a guy who is a freaking doormat because IT'S NOT AN ATTRACTIVE QUALITY. I've heard plenty of guys say that they want the same thing in a woman, so this isn't only about men.

When I said nice guy, not one time did I say doormat or a nice guy is a guy who says yes and if you say jump he says how high. Why do women consider this a nice guy? I was reading all these post and virtually all of them describe a nice guy as being soft and a whimp. That's proof right there that most women believe that a nice guy is considered to be a whimpy mama's boy who can't make his own decisions. Ladies......this is not a nice guy. This is a boy not a man.

The difinintion that I have for a nice man is one who knows how to treat a lady like a gentleman should treat a lady, not one who can't make up his own mind.

A nice woman is a woman who not only respects herself, but one who has her own opinions and is able to make her own decisions and one who also wants a man that repsects her and treats her like a lady.

The bad boy is the player, user, and the one who disresprects women every chance he gets. Based on these post it seems to me that women feel this is the definition of a strong man.