Bad Boys

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

I'm not afraid to choke a bitch, if that's what this thread is about.

LMAO!! I haven't seen that in a while.

[KAY10]

A guy that knows how to treat a lady doesn't classify him as a whimp or desparate. I think men who commit to women that have been out there and with the bad boys are in for a lot of problems.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by KAY10

I think men who commit to women that have been out there and with the bad boys are in for a lot of problems.

Why do you say this?

[Jimmy Choo]

In terms of "bad boys", sometimes women like the mystique of a man who is a little edgy (think James Dean). But women who like "bad boys" as in abusive in some way do tend to have an issue. Whether it be self esteem or something from childhood that is a deeper issue than wanting to date the local daredevil.

[Marie]

Originally Posted by starang21

women still want a man who's a man. soft/sensitive/cry-baby dudes don't get the girls.

Agreed. It is natural for women to look for strength and stability in their mate. Personally, I expect a potential mate to be strong when I'm not, have a clear vision for our future and a clear plan to take us there. A man who provides me no more strength and support than one of my girls is insufficient. This doesn't mean that the guy needs to be abusive, a player, or have no weaknesses whatsoever. What I often find, though, is that guys who complain about being rejected for being 'too nice' are often setting their sites on a 'particular' kind of girl as well. If you find yourself constantly seeking out girls with insecurities or superficial interests, then it is not surprising that you would fall short of their needs.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by starang21

women still want a man who's a man. soft/sensitive/cry-baby dudes don't get the girls.

A man who treats a lady like a lady is a man. Anything less are considered boys to me. He should support her physically, emotionally and spiritually. Take her coat off for her, open the door for her, pull her chair out for her ect. It's the simple things that get the ladies dude. I don't understand what the big deal is. Men that do this are not cry babies and are far from being soft. I grew up seeing my dad do these simple things for my mom and they've been married for 43 years. I dunno it's just how I was raised.

[macallan25]

A man who treats a lady like the lady is a man????

I don't know why but this sounds extremely odd.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by KAY10

A man who treats a lady like a lady is a man. Anything less are considered boys to me. He should support her physically, emotionally and spiritually. Take her coat off for her, open the door for her, pull her chair out for her ect. It's the simple things that get the ladies dude. I don't understand what the big deal is. Men that do this are not cry babies and are far from being soft. I grew up seeing my dad do these simple things for my mom and they've been married for 43 years. I dunno it's just how I was raised.

I think what starang is saying is women like their men strong, well I do anyway. I like a man who has a strong character and who can be my rock. I don't want a man who's scared to say something to the next man if he disrespects me. I want a man who will stand up for his family. In other words, I don't want a punk. I want strength and courage. That doesn't mean I want a man that beats me, but I want to feel protected by my man. Although I can't spreak for all women, I think that's what many women want in a man. Not saying that women don't also want sensitivity and understanding from their man, but I think some women like more of that and some like a little less. It just depends on the woman.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

I think what starang is saying is women like their men strong, well I do anyway. I like a man who has a strong character and who can be my rock. I don't want a man who's scared to say something to the next man if he disrespects me. I want a man who will stand up for his family. In other words, I don't want a punk. I want strength and courage. That doesn't mean I want a man that beats me, but I want to feel protected by my man. Although I can't spreak for all women, I think that's what many women want in a man. Not saying that women don't also want sensitivity and understanding from their man, but I think some women like more of that and some like a little less. It just depends on the woman.

I feel ya. If I were a woman, I wouldn't want a punk either. But why do you think because a guy treats his woman with the upmost respect makes him weak, as if he's soft and won't protect his woman, household and family?

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by KAY10

I feel ya. If I were a woman, I wouldn't want a punk either. But why do you think because a guy treats his woman with the upmost respect makes him weak, as if he's soft and won't protect his woman, household and family?

I don't think that. I think you can be an upmost gentleman and still not be a punk. I'm just not a very romantic person most of the time, so I don't need the car doors opened for me or candlelight dinners or flowers. I'm just happy with the plain old person being themselves. Renting movies and eating Doritos would make me just as happy, probably happier, because we're in the comfort of our own home. I don't like a big fuss. That's just the way I am though, a Plain Jane. lol

[starang21]

Originally Posted by KAY10

A man who treats a lady like a lady is a man. Anything less are considered boys to me. He should support her physically, emotionally and spiritually. Take her coat off for her, open the door for her, pull her chair out for her ect. It's the simple things that get the ladies dude. I don't understand what the big deal is. Men that do this are not cry babies and are far from being soft. I grew up seeing my dad do these simple things for my mom and they've been married for 43 years. I dunno it's just how I was raised.

and a woman doesn't want a man who's soft either. a man who is masculine can do all of those things and still not be a bitch.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by starang21

and a woman doesn't want a man who's soft either. a man who is masculine can do all of those things and still not be a bitch.

Exactly. It's the ones who don't do these things are the bitches.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by KAY10

Exactly. It's the ones who don't do these things are the bitches.

but there are also dudes who aren't masculine who do all of the above. and said dudes are the same ones to complain about how nice men finish last. hell, no woman is going to want that. they're basically a tit anyway.

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by KAY10

A man who treats a lady like a lady is a man. Anything less are considered boys to me. He should support her physically, emotionally and spiritually. Take her coat off for her, open the door for her, pull her chair out for her ect. It's the simple things that get the ladies dude. I don't understand what the big deal is. Men that do this are not cry babies and are far from being soft. I grew up seeing my dad do these simple things for my mom and they've been married for 43 years. I dunno it's just how I was raised.

Yet again, this is a matter of personal preference. If a guy tried to take my coat off for me or pull out my chair, I'd be very annoyed.

And what does it mean to support someone physically or spiritually?

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

Yet again, this is a matter of personal preference. If a guy tried to take my coat off for me or pull out my chair, I'd be very annoyed.

You know what? I think it would annoy me too. Once or twice would be a nice gesture, but I couldn't take it all the time. Just sit your azz down. LOL