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Originally posted by PhoenixAzul
Hi, that's me. i'm almost 20, kissed 3 guys in my life, and I'm a virgin by my own volition and i'm damn proud of it. I've been with my boyfriend (not a virgin) for 3 years, and we're in no hurry. The ground rules were laid down pretty early in our relationship. We're both Straightedge (no drinking, no drugs, no smoking, no promiscuity, related to punk/hardcore...google sXe) and we're both practicing catholics. While being catholic has something to do with my choice, it's not the only reason. We both were straightedge way before we met, and we sort of met through that subculture.
I think what bothers me is that people are willing to discount someone who might be their soul mate because of what they aren't going to "Get". It's all about "Getting" something. That's just a very selfish attitude to me.
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Haha. Yeah, that was me too, at 20.
You're right, the rules WERE laid down very early in your relationship - AT SEVENTEEN!
Life just kinda tends to happen to you - the early 20s/colllege years, especially. You can control a lot, but not everything - and I think from personal experience, the less pressure you put on yourself to be ONE certain thing (a virgin, a good student, etc) as though it defines you, the better.
Being a virgin or a good student are both great things. But they seem to work better as the RESULT of just trying to live life well, vs. as the end result itself.
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