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Taualumna 12-08-2003 08:37 PM

Question for guys regarding virginity
 
Guys:

Let's say you're dating a fairly attractive girl who is, say, mid 20s. She tells you that not only is she a virgin (face it, most 20something virgins have done other things), but she hasn't gone past French kissing anyone and has only kissed 5 men in her life. Would you think that she's "too pure"? She is a virgin not because of religious belief, but beause she never really had the opportunity to do it.

kafromTN 12-08-2003 08:40 PM

I personally might feel bad "corrupting" her...but there's nothing wrong with her not having gone that far. I mean it wouldn't keep me away if otherwise I liked the girl.


-Mark

ThetaPrincess24 12-08-2003 08:56 PM

I know a few girls like that around that age actually. I think it's impressive because they are taking their time and not rushing into doing something they may not be ready to do or handle just yet. But while they may be "pure" so to speak, that doenst take away the fact they are still human, with human erges, and have thought about it numerous times.

Just a different perspective here......

AGDGirl 12-08-2003 09:01 PM

I think its so great when a girl or boy saves themselves. My two friends dated for 3 years and never kissed(they got married last week and that was the first) How sweet =)

Taualumna 12-08-2003 09:03 PM

Never kissed? OMG. I don't think I can do that!! I can not have sex with someone, but kissing?? Can't do that. Were your friends religious?

Side note: I know a girl who is 23 and has never, ever, ever kissed anyone (other than a peck on the cheek, mostly by relatives). She tells me that she does not intend to, ever.

AGDGirl 12-08-2003 09:11 PM

I mean they went to church but they didnt do it for that reason. They just wanted to make sure they really loved each other and werent in it for lust. They are so great and there wedding was amazing!

James 12-08-2003 09:31 PM

I would question the judgement of "attractive" if a friend came up to me and said he knew this great girl that was in her mid twenties and had only kissed a few guys and never had the opportunity to do more . . . .

Sounds like a "nice personality" comment.

AlphaPhiBubbles 12-08-2003 10:02 PM

Am I the only one that thinks that is weird? Not the original post I mean...cuz its fine to be a virgin at any age or whatever....but things like not KISSING til you are married to me is just kinda like shooting yourself in the foot. I think in order to really be compatible with someone else, being physically intimate plays an important part. What if the both of you aren't sexually compatible at all and now you are married for life? I don't know, this is just my opinion but I have seen people in relationships where the intimacy was destroyed (and ultimatley the relationship) because of their sexual compatibility and nothing else.

But I am never one to judge other people's moral beliefs :) I just personally think this is odd.

AGDGirl 12-08-2003 10:05 PM

yes is kinda odd but its what they wanted to do and they are so in love its really great

MeLikey 12-08-2003 10:08 PM

I knew a girl in high school who would sometimes shy away from kissing guys just because she didn't want to or she got grossed out for some reason... she herself said she was weird about those things, and this girl was really pretty. But then again, that was high school, she's changed since then and isn't like that anymore.

Taualumna: How long have you been dating her?

Taualumna 12-08-2003 10:10 PM

ERRRRR I'm a girl and I'm straight. It was just a question.

PhiPsiRuss 12-08-2003 10:14 PM

A virgin? What's that? So I just looked it up. I would comfort her and tell her that virginity is easily curable.

But seriously, I would think that it is weird. If I really loved her, I would be willing to take the time with her, but I would need to know that there are no psychological issues. I would want to make sure that she is able to let her self go when the time is right. It would be terrible to take a girl's virginity and have her detest the experience.

Dionysus 12-08-2003 10:17 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Taualumna
ERRRRR I'm a girl and I'm straight. It was just a question.
No ur not.

absolutuscchick 12-08-2003 10:21 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by AGDGirl
I think its so great when a girl or boy saves themselves. My two friends dated for 3 years and never kissed(they got married last week and that was the first) How sweet =)
:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: Were they REALLY REALLY REALLY religious???

Taualumna 12-08-2003 10:24 PM

Dionysis, I AM a girl. I'm an AGD. AGDs can't be boys. Maybe I'm the girl in the question, maybe I'm not.


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