Is sex really that big of a deal?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Wow....I had such a wonderful future and I became the sex-witholding single mother. Monet, what happened to me????? lol

Be mindful of your choices in mates... Break a leg and good luck!

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

To answer your question, I'm single because there are very little requirements for getting a decent woman, but a lot to keep her. Two of them I do not have and that's time and money. School is my 1st priority right now.

O KAAAAAAAAAAY. What are you studying?

Hey, do you know anything about the Roseville area? When I graduate this year, I wanted to look for an apartment out there. I'm going to be attending grad school here, so I thought Roseville looked like a nice area. What do you know?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

AAAAAGGGGHHHHH!!!! I DON'T WANT TO BE THE 40-YEAR-OLD VIRGIN!!!!!

Lol, but I'm still waiting till I'm married. I just want to wait to have sex till I'm married...I don't want my waiting to have sex be the reason I have to wait forever to get married. If that makes sense.

Great idea. If I were you I would wait. And when you do get married, you'll know if he's the right man because if he's willing to wait for you, then that to me means he loves you for you and only you. Good luck.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

O KAAAAAAAAAAY. What are you studying?

Hey, do you know anything about the Roseville area? When I graduate this year, I wanted to look for an apartment out there. I'm going to be attending grad school here, so I thought Roseville looked like a nice area. What do you know?

I'm studying Industrial Design. I want to design cars for a living.

Roseville is really nice. I'm not sure where decent apartments would be, but the area is nice. My God parents live out there, and they love it. I only know places like Pavilion Place, Rosedale Mall, Har Mar. Places like that.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I'm studying Industrial Design. I want to design cars for a living.

Roseville is really nice. I'm not sure where decent apartments would be, but the area is nice. My God parents live out there, and they love it. I only know places like Pavilion Place, Rosedale Mall, Har Mar. Places like that.

Hey Minnesota! How are you?

Car designer? Wow! Sounds really cool.

LOL. You get around. You go to Nina's and you've got God parents in the Roseville area. How funny. Yeah, I know where Rosedale, Har Mar and the Pavillion Place are. LOL. This is so bizarre! I've been looking, in different places and I like Roseville the best. Ya know, I never thought I would end up chatting with someone from the same city, that goes to the same coffee shop as me. Once you're here when did you plan on stopping in Nina's? Maybe we can meet there.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Hey Minnesota! How are you?

Car designer? Wow! Sounds really cool.

LOL. You get around. You go to Nina's and you've got God parents in the Roseville area. How funny. Yeah, I know where Rosedale, Har Mar and the Pavillion Place are. LOL. This is so bizarre! I've been looking, in different places and I like Roseville the best. Ya know, I never thought I would end up chatting with someone from the same city, that goes to the same coffee shop as me. Once your'e here when did you plan on stopping in Nina's? Maybe we can meet there.

Wazzzzzzzzzzzzzuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuppppppppp!

No, I really never hung out when I lived in Minnesota. When I was in highschool, and when I would come home from undergrad, I would just stay at home and relax with my family, so I don't know of a lot of places to go other than the hobby store. I love the hobby store. I can tell you where most of the hobby stores are.

You were serious about meeting at Nina's?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Wazzzzzzzzzzzzzuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuppppppppp!

No, I really never hung out when I lived in Minnesota. When I was in highschool, and when I would come home from undergrad, I would just stay at home and relax with my family, so I don't know of a lot of places to go other than the hobby store. I love the hobby store. I can tell you where most of the hobby stores are.

You were serious about meeting at Nina's?

Hobby stores . Ummm...I'm not really interested in shopping at a hobby store.

I thought you were coming to Minnesota for the holiday? I mean, I just thought it would be nice to meet someone from the same city. That's all. You have your moments on GC but for the most part you're o.k.

Seriously, if you don't want to we don't have to. I just thought we were talking about meeting each other there since we both go there a lot.

O.K. chow 4 now.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Hobby stores . Ummm...I'm not really interested in shopping at a hobby store.

I thought you were coming to Minnesota for the holiday? I mean, I just thought it would be nice to meet someone from the same city. That's all. You have your moments on GC but for the most part you're o.k.

Seriously, if you don't want to we don't have to. I just thought we were talking about meeting each other there since we both go there a lot.

O.K. chow 4 now.

Well, I guess. (blank stare)

[KSig RC]

What on the Earth happened in this thread?

Also, any time this exact conversation comes up, there's always one interesting disconnect: the virgin is willing to recognize how rare their own virginity is (or how difficult it may be), but then wonders why s/he has trouble finding a mate to accept/understand . . .

It's going to be hard - most people like sex, that's kind of the point - so yeah, you're going to have to look harder or lower your standards. Remember, guys are kind of retarded, so I'm sure you can find a dorky engineer to pay for everything and let you stomp all over him until he becomes financially secure enough to afford a divorce - not every guy has the Cap'n Save-a-hoe mentality, but most do, so yeah. You're starting with two strikes.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

not every guy has the Cap'n Save-a-hoe mentality

+2 points for use of phrase "Cap'n Save-a-hoe"

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

Cap'n Save-a-hoe mentality

Eventhough that is not a new word...did you just see I Think I Love My Wife because Chris Rock was called Captain-Save-a-Hoe.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

What on the Earth happened in this thread?

Also, any time this exact conversation comes up, there's always one interesting disconnect: the virgin is willing to recognize how rare their own virginity is (or how difficult it may be), but then wonders why s/he has trouble finding a mate to accept/understand . . .

It's going to be hard - most people like sex, that's kind of the point - so yeah, you're going to have to look harder or lower your standards. Remember, guys are kind of retarded, so I'm sure you can find a dorky engineer to pay for everything and let you stomp all over him until he becomes financially secure enough to afford a divorce - not every guy has the Cap'n Save-a-hoe mentality, but most do, so yeah. You're starting with two strikes.

Okay, first thing's first.....

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA at Captain Save a Hoe


Okay, I'm gonna be real, because I think I just let myself admit why this upsets me, so if I start to offend people or sound judgemental, let me know.

I look around me at the selection of women that my campus offers. Quality women, for the most part very nice. But looking at the ones who are in committed relationships or at least date a lot of handsome, well-mannered men, I can't help but compare to see what I'm doing wrong. There are sistahs out there who (and if this sounds judgmental I apologize, it's just observations) who look and act a hot mess on a consistent basis. Some look AND SMELL as though they aren't taking care of themselves. Some are mean and catty. Some spend more time in the boy dorms than their own and put their business in the street all the time. Many are extremely overweight AND IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING UNATTRACTIVE, they simply look completely and totally unhealthy. Some are perfectly likeable, beautiful, kind, warm-hearted, hard workers, etc. Then there's me--sweet but sassy, thick but shapely, nice but honest. I respect myself and others around me, do well in school (straight As) , make my own money, about to have a degree. I'm not fashion forward, but I at least BATHE REGULARLY, you can't smell me coming. I have a sarcastic sense of humor, lots of personality. I can have sort of a temper, a little attitude when you disrespect me or one of my friends--I'm mostly nice to everyone, but I'm no pushover. So I'm not saying that I'm better than anybody, THAT'S NOT TRUE, but from what I observe, the only thing that other women do that I don't is have sex. That's all that I can think of and I honestly don't see why it should be that big of a deal that if you aren't getting it, you would walk away from a woman who has so many positives. I don't need a man to complete me, I have a lot going for me on my own, but when you've been single since H.S. with hardly any prospects, you wonder what you're doing wrong. So I put it to GC to know if sex is just that great that you would reject a woman's mind, heart, and spirit just because you can't have her you-know-what.

[1908Revelations]

I am single and I can really identify with how you descibe yourself except I graduate in December and I don't have straight A's. I understand your frustration when you see these Hot-Mess girls in committed relationships....but what I had to tell myself is 'I don't know what she did to get him and I don't know what she is doing to keep him.' Not to say that those guys don't seen positives in those girls, but trust me I understand what you mean.

[RoyalEmpress33]

Originally Posted by James

Isn't a relationship without sexual contact called friendship?

I am being glib, but also serious.

Let's say for example you were dating a young woman for about 3 1/2 years before you proposed to her. You mean to tell me the entire time you were just dating you'd just consider her your 'friend'? Even though you weren't having sex or were waiting to get married to have sex? I'm lost...

Anyway, I was in this same situation not too long ago actually. I really liked this guy (or THOUGHT I did) and because I liked him and he was well aware of it, he thought that this was his open invitation to having sex with me. He felt as though,well, I like him, so I'll give him whatever he wants. Ummm-NOT! I don't think so. I'm a virgin, and plan on staying that way for a long time. If he didn't like it, that was just too damn bad and he can go back where he came from. Well, the next day after I denied him of ANY sexual activity, he started acting foolish. Didn't speak. Didn't call or anything. But you know what? That's fine. F*ck him is what I say.

Alot of women feel like in order to keep a so-called "man" that they have to give up the only precious thing they can't get back just so some man can have another notch on his belt. If a man is not willing to get some self-control and WAIT, then you don't need him. I might have got off topic a little, but that's my two cents.

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by RoyalEmpress33

Let's say for example you were dating a young woman for about 3 1/2 years before you proposed to her. You mean to tell me the entire time you were just dating you'd just consider her your 'friend'? Even though you weren't having sex or were waiting to get married to have sex? I'm lost...

I'm pretty sure James wouldn't be dating a young woman for 3 1/2 years without having sex with her.