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Old 05-20-2010, 07:11 PM
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In addition to being on his Blackberry the entire time, his friend being rude after visiting the table to meet me (and then blowing me off), and making me feel like an alcoholic when I order one (1!!, and not even like some gigantic German stein or something, but a regular sized one)) beer, I knew it would be a bad first date when he left to use the restroom and said to me, "Please still be here when I get back." Why oh why didn't I leave then...
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Old 05-20-2010, 08:39 PM
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I once dated a guy whose nickname back home was "Satan" ... That should have been a red flag right there. So basically, take heed of any questionable nicknames.
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Old 05-20-2010, 09:13 PM
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Both of these happened to me on a first date.

1. Not only talking about your ex, but saying that your ex 1. cheated on you and 2. was a druggie. And then you go on to tell me that you don't like wearing condoms and that you had unprotected sex quite often with above mentioned girlfriend.

Yeah, don't think so!

2. Not talking. I had a guy who couldn't carry on a simple conversation. It was like pulling teeth to get him to answer a simple question. It was the most uncomfortable dinner date in my life. I was nice and gave him a second date (thought maybe he would losen up). That didn't happen. I had to make a dash to the bathroom and convince my friend to call me back with an emergency so I could bow out early. (yeah, I know I'm mean, but I didn't want to tell this guy in a public place, "I'm going home, this date sucks".
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Old 05-20-2010, 09:19 PM
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Both of these happened to me on a first date.

1. Not only talking about your ex, but saying that your ex 1. cheated on you and 2. was a druggie. And then you go on to tell me that you don't like wearing condoms and that you had unprotected sex quite often with above mentioned girlfriend.

Yeah, don't think so!
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Old 05-21-2010, 09:37 AM
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Both of these happened to me on a first date.

1. Not only talking about your ex, but saying that your ex 1. cheated on you and 2. was a druggie. And then you go on to tell me that you don't like wearing condoms and that you had unprotected sex quite often with above mentioned girlfriend.

Yeah, don't think so!

2. Not talking. I had a guy who couldn't carry on a simple conversation. It was like pulling teeth to get him to answer a simple question. It was the most uncomfortable dinner date in my life. I was nice and gave him a second date (thought maybe he would losen up). That didn't happen. I had to make a dash to the bathroom and convince my friend to call me back with an emergency so I could bow out early. (yeah, I know I'm mean, but I didn't want to tell this guy in a public place, "I'm going home, this date sucks".
LOL!! I've never been one to have someone call with an "emergency." That takes too much work. If it isn't working, it just isn't and I'll tell them so. It's not working so I think we should end this date. I don't need to waste my good free night time minutes having someone call to pretend to need me. I'm too grown for that.
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Old 05-20-2010, 10:46 PM
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LOL. Leave cheerfulgreek alone. This thread is all about the subjective "signs of a bad date." I could critique what a lot of people typed if I felt like it.

Plus, we already know how she feels about certain things. LOL.

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Old 05-21-2010, 12:40 AM
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LOL. Leave cheerfulgreek alone. This thread is all about the subjective "signs of a bad date." I could critique what a lot of people typed if I felt like it.

Plus, we already know how she feels about certain things. LOL.
her invisibility cloak is up so it doesn't matter. i'm not bothering her if there won't be a response. LOL

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I had a convo with a friend about the usefulness of an actual philosophy major/degree the other day. I said that philosophy is a component of many schools of thoughts/majors/degrees/fields/careers and I feel like philosophy should be the beginning of a discussion and not the end [philosophy---->philosophy]. I have philosophical discussions all the time but I did not know whether literally being a philosopher had great utility. That was my simplistic way of thinking (I was tie-red) and what I said can be and has been said for a number of fields, though. I would never be disrespectful toward someone with a bachelor's or graduate degree in philosophy. It is awesome in its own right and has utility. Like I said, philosophy's a component of many schools of thought and fields of expertise---even *gasp* some of the things that cheerfulgreek chooses to be interested in.
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i think philosophy is an awesome field and def agree that it touches on many of the things cg would be interested in. philosophy seems to be on the "opposite end" of the spectrum of many things, like business- but sometimes its the perfect fit.
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Old 05-21-2010, 01:19 AM
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Is this a thread based on blind "dates" or someone you'd meet in a social setting? If I meet a young lady in a social setting, I pretty much can determine right then and there just from the conversation if there would even be a first date. So, I'll just make the assumption that it's based on a blind "date".

I don't really have a "list" of what would or wouldn't determine if there would be a 2nd date. For me, I also really don't like calling it a "date". I'd say more like hanging out, if anything. Of course the physical attraction has to be there. Other than that, I'm good, as long as she possesses the character and friendship qualities that I need in a long-term relationship. Also the spiritual commitment has to be the same, too, as well as family background, and shared values. I'll ask myself, would I pick her as a friend? If the answer is no, then there won't be a second "date".

I saw folks mentioning "interests and hobbies". For me, no, I may not have an interest in her hobbies, alone. Meaning, I wouldn't go out and enjoy those hobbies on my own, if I didn't have any interest in them. But it's not about her hobbies, for me, it's about seeing if she is a person that I would like spending time with if there were no romance at all. To me, that is the one true measure of a friend, a person with whom I like to spend time, having no regard to how we are spending it,--her hobbies or mine. Doesn't matter. The way I see it, I would want my best friends to be honest, faithful, spiritual, responsible, connecting, loving etc. So, those qualities also need to be present in her, too. If I don't see the first signs of any of this, then there won't be a 2nd date.

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Old 05-21-2010, 01:18 AM
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Discussion of kids on the first date.

I like kids. I just don't think discussing how many kids you want when you don't even know my last name is weird.

Same with marriage. If you tell me on the first date that one of your goals is to get married within a year (true story), there will not be a second.
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Old 05-21-2010, 01:24 AM
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PB i thought you were gonna say ugly toes
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Old 05-21-2010, 01:28 AM
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PB i thought you were gonna say ugly toes
That's all apart of the physical attraction being there. C'mon now ds, you know pretty feet and toes are a must. She's gotta have that. Otherwise no 2nd date.
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Old 05-21-2010, 01:59 AM
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That's all apart of the physical attraction being there. C'mon now ds, you know pretty feet and toes are a must. She's gotta have that. Otherwise no 2nd date.
So are you going to demand to see her feet if she's wearing closed-toed shoes? Just playing.

I've got a question for the ladies: What would you think if a guy took you on a date and it somehow came up that this was his first real date, even though he is almost 20?

Since I know you can tell from the question that that is my situation, I'll go ahead and admit it. Sure, I'm 19, just finished up freshmen year, am now a Kappa Sigma, and have many friends, both male and female, but I've never actually been on a date. Would that turn a girl off in any way, maybe making her think "Geez, this is his first date ever? What's wrong with this guy?"
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Old 05-21-2010, 02:15 AM
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So are you going to demand to see her feet if she's wearing closed-toed shoes? Just playing.
I just wait until the summer when she starts wearing flip flops. Plus, I wouldn't "demand" anything from her. Her toes/feet will eventually show over time spent. If she's got hammer toe, and/or it looks like she's been kickin' flour, then "just friends" we will remain. That is what we started out as, right?
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Old 05-21-2010, 02:19 AM
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So are you going to demand to see her feet if she's wearing closed-toed shoes? Just playing.

I've got a question for the ladies: What would you think if a guy took you on a date and it somehow came up that this was his first real date, even though he is almost 20?

Since I know you can tell from the question that that is my situation, I'll go ahead and admit it. Sure, I'm 19, just finished up freshmen year, am now a Kappa Sigma, and have many friends, both male and female, but I've never actually been on a date. Would that turn a girl off in any way, maybe making her think "Geez, this is his first date ever? What's wrong with this guy?"
At 19 I'd think you're a "late" bloomer. 19 isnt bad 39 thats a problem. And any girl who is stupid enough to think less of you because you've never been on a date isnt worth shyt any way. She should appreciate that youre going on a date with her and shouldnt be worried about your past.
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Old 05-21-2010, 08:34 AM
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So are you going to demand to see her feet if she's wearing closed-toed shoes? Just playing.

I've got a question for the ladies: What would you think if a guy took you on a date and it somehow came up that this was his first real date, even though he is almost 20?

Since I know you can tell from the question that that is my situation, I'll go ahead and admit it. Sure, I'm 19, just finished up freshmen year, am now a Kappa Sigma, and have many friends, both male and female, but I've never actually been on a date. Would that turn a girl off in any way, maybe making her think "Geez, this is his first date ever? What's wrong with this guy?"
I don't think, at 19, that's a big deal. However, why would you feel compelled to even tell her that on a first date? I'm a lot older than you (like old enough to be your mom), but I don't think college has changed a ton in the dating arena. Dating was different in college. It was more like hanging out. Nobody had transportation or money so "dates" didn't happen like they do when you're in high school or when you're older. It would be more like going to the bar together when half the campus was there anyway or going to the football game and tailgating with the greeks, etc. Or, just hanging out in the dorms with each other, watching a movie, playing cards, etc.
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