Needing help fitting in despite rough circumstances.

[AZTheta]

And I might bang this drum (which has been tapped in this thread already): talk to an advisor, stat.

Based on what the OP posted, from an advisor standpoint, I'd be looking at her as a significant risk/scholarship challenge, without knowing the circumstances of her situation. Advisors can help, and can be a great resource, in terms of the membership issue(s).

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

And I might bang this drum (which has been tapped in this thread already): talk to an advisor, stat.

Based on what the OP posted, from an advisor standpoint, I'd be looking at her as a significant risk/scholarship challenge, without knowing the circumstances of her situation. Advisors can help, and can be a great resource, in terms of the membership issue(s).

Yes, yes, yes. i also said this earlier in the thread. Advisors are more understanding than collegiate members often give us credit for and one of the reasons collegiate chapters have advisors is for them to help the college members-but we can't do that if the collegiate members won't talk to us.

[lunalovegood]

I talked to my big yesterday and she let me know that our adviser knows what happened, and I'm planning to talk to her (referring to the adviser, but I need to talk to my big) when the semester starts up again.

I think I got what I needed to hear, and thank you guys for all being supportive. Even to those of you who were harsher because it was stuff I, as I said, needed to hear.

[melindawarren]

Originally Posted by lunalovegood

I talked to my big yesterday and she let me know that our adviser knows what happened, and I'm planning to talk to her (referring to the adviser, but I need to talk to my big) when the semester starts up again.

I think I got what I needed to hear, and thank you guys for all being supportive. Even to those of you who were harsher because it was stuff I, as I said, needed to hear.

I'm glad to hear it. Have a wonderful New Year, and let it be a year of you recovering and rebuilding.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by melindawarren

I'm glad to hear it. Have a wonderful New Year, and let it be a year of you recovering and rebuilding.

ditto! Hugs to you luna.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Jen

Did everybody miss the " I have also been in the process of pressing judicial charges against the guy who did it." part?

I agree with everyone saying to talk to your president and chapter adviser.

Of course, judicial charges and police charges are two different things. There have been many reports lately of the poor job schools do of handling rape and sexual assault cases. Police departments, though, may have no jurisdiction on college campuses. I hope that this works out for the OP and she can find closure.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Of course, judicial charges and police charges are two different things. There have been many reports lately of the poor job schools do of handling rape and sexual assault cases. Police departments, though, may have no jurisdiction on college campuses. I hope that this works out for the OP and she can find closure.

Yes, there is a big difference between filing a judicial charge and police charge. Many college campuses defer to the off-campus police (and higher legal authorities) when it comes to incidents like rape that far surpass the school's jurisdiction. Schools typically do not hire campus security and police to override larger legal authority on such incidents.

As an aside, Google has some examples of forms to file judicial charges for GCers who are unfamiliar with those.

[AGDLynn]

My dear sister!

I sent you a pm.

LiEP
Lynn