Mom new to Greek, daughter rushing. needs help

[AZ-AlphaXi]

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

i did read most of them. lol but i was still a little confused. i guess i can't understand that if a girl chooses 3 sororities, and they have invited her back...how can she not get in?

also, would an email suffice to the sorority from my lady friends? or should my daughter carry around copies of this letter for all the sororites to have on hand? i don't know how would be a good time to get these letters to the houses. Also, does her referal have to be from a former greek? Or what if my lady friend belongs to house XYZ, I don't think house ABC would want a referal letter from my friend who was in XYZ?

you are talking here about recommentations. These should be from a member of XYZ to the XYZ chapter. a recommendation from a member of ABC won't count at XYZ. The member of XYZ who is providing the recommendation is responsible to getting that recommendation letter or form to the chapter, not your daughter. your daughter can help by providing a resume and stamped envelope addressed to the chapter to the recommender member, but the member is responsible for sending it in. if an email would be sufficient, that would be between the chaper and the member and the member would know that. Your daughter should not carry recommendations with her to give to the chapters.

[scoobydoo]

AZ alphi xi - you are very helpful. thank you. I will tell my daughter to be the gracious recipient of all invites - like i raised her to be. I can't imagine that she would not go to a house when she was invited and her schedule allows her to. if she does and it hurts her in the end, she will not have given the process it's full chance.

[scoobydoo]

and what does PNM stand for? lol

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

and what does PNM stand for? lol

Potential New Member. I find it hard to believe that you've read the stickied recruitment threads as you claim.

[scoobydoo]

10 events in one day - what if she has class? the day she is "down to" 6 is on a monday, which is a class day. what should she do?

[33girl]

Rush and class will not occur at the same time.

[AXi1257]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Rush and class will not occur at the same time.

Actually, that's not true. At least where I went to college. Recruitment (Rush when I went through) is always in September, classes have started, and many classes go into the evening. When I was a Rho Chi, I was a little late getting to my group since I was still in class. Every school is different though...

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AXi1257

Actually, that's not true. At least where I went to college. Recruitment (Rush when I went through) is always in September, classes have started, and many classes go into the evening. When I was a Rho Chi, I was a little late getting to my group since I was still in class. Every school is different though...

With a big system like the OP is describing, I'm betting that rush and class will not occur at the same time.

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

10 events in one day - what if she has class? the day she is "down to" 6 is on a monday, which is a class day. what should she do?

You know what?

Quit wondering about it.

If she's concerned about things related to recruitment, she'll ask her Recruitment Counselor.

[scoobydoo]

i read the general one that was like 5 pages long and i've read the stickies. it's still confusing to someone who hasn't gone through the process and i'm sorry if i am annoying with too many questions. I thought it was ok to do so in this forum. Well, i think i dropped the ball because rush starts this weekend and i wouldn't impose on my friends at this late date - the letter couldn't get there before the weekend anyway. and I don't know how to get this form.
poo. i guess i'm a bad mom....

[33girl]

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

i read the general one that was like 5 pages long and i've read the stickies. it's still confusing to someone who hasn't gone through the process and i'm sorry if i am annoying with too many questions. I thought it was ok to do so in this forum. Well, i think i dropped the ball because rush starts this weekend and i wouldn't impose on my friends at this late date - the letter couldn't get there before the weekend anyway. and I don't know how to get this form.
poo. i guess i'm a bad mom....

Impose on your friends.
You couldn't get the form because you're not a member.
You are not a bad mom, just a little confused.

[KSUViolet06]

I wouldn't say you dropped the ball, you just didn't know. And really, it is more your daughter's job to do the legwork to secure these letters before recruitment than it is yours (since she is the one rushing).

Yes they must be from women.

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

Well, i think i dropped the ball because rush starts this weekend and i wouldn't impose on my friends at this late date -

YOU did not drop the ball. This is your daughter's event and she is now old enough to be doing things on her own. Sit back, take a deep breath, and just let her experience it. Enjoy it when she shares stories with you, but allow yourself to let her do this on her own. She is a big girl and will thank you for it!

And read more of the stickies. All of your questions are answered there.

[scoobydoo]

i'm not worried. i'm excited! she is my first to go to college and she is going to participate in something i never did and i want to learn about it so when she talks to me about it, i don't bombard her with lack of understanding. that's why I'm here.

[texas*princess]

the stickied threads give you all of the information you need to know. as mentioned before, your daughter will have a Recruitment Counselor who can answer her questions.