Mom new to Greek, daughter rushing. needs help

[scoobydoo]

does it ever happen that she has a conflict of an event between two houses? I mean, when you say girls "cut" going - could it be because they can't be at two places at once? and when do girls decide to 'cut'. It is my understand that..

1. first weekend on a friday and saturday, you attend all 15 or so houses
2. on Sunday she goes to 10 houses - which translates to not attending 5 (does she not get invited back? or can she still attend al 15?)
3. Monday she is down to 6 houses.... again, who is doing the cutting? can she keep attending as many as she wants? (provided she gets an invite from all). And is there such a thing that she might not get invited to at least 6 by monday.
4. the following sunday, she is down to 3 houses...in the interim, during the week, how did she go from 6 to 3? did they not invite her back, or is she only allowed to attend 3?

this is all so confusing...

and finally, on bid day, if she DOESNT get a call? that's a GOOD thing????

[AOII Angel]

You can attend as many parties are allowed for each day. If your daughter can go to 5 parties, she should pick her 5 favorite from the invitations she has. If she is invited to 6 parties and likes all but ABC. She should drop ABC and go to the parties that she likes. No one is advocating that she cut a group she likes in favor of keeping a "weak" chapter as a back up. The process usually works pretty well. Making the decision to cut a group is usually less difficult than picking the final chapter in the end. Your daughter may even have the choices made for her. She should got each day to as many parties as she possibly can. If she is invited to fewer parties than the maximum allowed for that day, she can only attend the number that she was invited to. She, also, will not be able to attend more than is allowed each day.

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

does it ever happen that she has a conflict of an event between two houses? I mean, when you say girls "cut" going - could it be because they can't be at two places at once? and when do girls decide to 'cut'. It is my understand that..

1. first weekend on a friday and saturday, you attend all 15 or so houses
2. on Sunday she goes to 10 houses - which translates to not attending 5 (does she not get invited back? or can she still attend al 15?)
3. Monday she is down to 6 houses.... again, who is doing the cutting? can she keep attending as many as she wants? (provided she gets an invite from all). And is there such a thing that she might not get invited to at least 6 by monday.
4. the following sunday, she is down to 3 houses...in the interim, during the week, how did she go from 6 to 3? did they not invite her back, or is she only allowed to attend 3?

this is all so confusing...

and finally, on bid day, if she DOESNT get a call? that's a GOOD thing????

2. If she's only allowed to go to a maximum of 10 houses on Day 2, she will only go to the houses that invited her back. There's a chance that she WON'T be invited back to all 10. She could get 1-9 invites.

3. She'll be doing the cutting and the houses will do the cutting. Rush is mutual selection.

4. See Answer #2.

It's not that confusing.

And yes, no phone call is a good thing.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

does it ever happen that she has a conflict of an event between two houses?

No. Panhellenic (the group coordinating rush events for all the sororities) schedules the parties and the attendees so they do not overlap. The sororities basically put on the same party multiple times so all the rushees can attend. Kind of like TNT showing the same show multiple times and different people watching it each time.

The number of parties she is allowed to attend decreases as she gets further along in the process.

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Kind of like TNT showing the same show multiple times and different people watching it each time.

You are on a roll with the analogies today.

[AZ-AlphaXi]

this is the method of mutual selection ...

first day is usually an open house where all PNMs visit all the sororities. Your group moves from house to house in a scheduled pattern.

second day - this is usually a first invitation day. the PNMs have either ranked all the groups at the end of the first day or receive actual invitations. in the first method, the sororities issue invitations to those PNMs they'd like to see again, and panhellenic matches up the PNMs preferences with the invitations they receive and the PNMs are presented with an event schedule. For example, on the second day the PNMs can attend 10 events (all well be scheduled one after another). If you get invited to more than 10 sororities, then you have to "cut" which ones you won't attend. in the first case, panhellenic does the matching and you would never know if a group you had listed lower in your preference did or didn't invite you, if you have a full schedule. in the second case, you get to see the actual invitations and know which ones invited you and which didn't. In either case you can attend up to 10 events, no more, and perhaps less if you don't get invited.

the next days are a repeat of this process, with successively less events that you can attend. Each day the length of the events gets longer, so even though you're going to less events the days are just as long.

last set of events is preference, these are parties where the sororities will attempt to show some of what their sisterhood is about via serious songs, serious talk, and a ceremony of some sort.

after preference, the PNMs rank the sororites in the order they wish to join.. ie ABC #1, DEF #2, and XYZ #3. if they only attended 2 or 1 preference party, panhellenic may or may not allow the PNM to list other chapters they would be willing to accept a bid from even if they didn't attend their preference party.

PNMs often have decided that a group is "not desirable" before recruitment even begins and are not happy about having to attend an event at a group they believe is not good enough for them and will skip the party or attempt to drop them even if they have room in their schedule to attend. This is not desirable, and depending on the rules of panhellenic may get you dropped from recruitment. At the least, you will not be eligible for extra consideration at bid matching time .. ie you are not eligible for quota addition if you don't "maximize" your options.

not getting a call on bid day is a good thing ... most panhellenics attempt to inform PNMs if they don't get a bid so they won't show up expecting one and are uncomfortable.

hope this helps ... if you have any explicit questions, please feel free to PM me and I'll try to answer.