Non-greek lavaliering a greek girlfriend

[FSUZeta]

a non-greek person should not be lavaliering his greek girlfriend. final answer!

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

a non-greek person should not be lavaliering his greek girlfriend. final answer!

Why not?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

Why not?

Because the letters aren't theirs to give.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Because the letters aren't theirs to give.

Though it could be argued that even for fraternity men the letters aren't theirs to give.

[BabyPiNK_FL]

My ex, who is in a fraternity, gave me my own letters after I got lavaliered by my big after about a year (as is chapter tradition) but with a gold one which is what I really wanted instead of the silver I got initially [cos that's what I deserved, yeah I said it].

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Though it could be argued that even for fraternity men the letters aren't theirs to give.

I agree, and that's one reason why lavaliering for boyfriends and girlfriends is such a strange thing to me. I don't understand fraternity men "giving" their letters to a woman or "giving" a woman her own letters.

It makes more sense to me that there are organizations with designations and/or ceremonies for husbands and wives of members. I don't know if this involves the "giving" of any letters for some of these orgs.

[RaggedyAnn]

And not to be a debbie downer, but what if you break up with your non-Greek boyfriend that lavaliered you? What would you do with the lavalier? It's a technical question, because I'm sure you'd wear it, but it's like wearing a promise ring after you break up. Having been the recipient of one of those (a promise ring), I never quite felt right wearing it after, even though I loved it.

[aephi alum]

Let me clarify my opinion on this matter.

A non-greek man can certainly lavalier his greek girlfriend. Can he give her a lavalier with his letters? Obviously not, as he's not in a fraternity. Can he give her a lavalier with her own letters? No - he doesn't know their significance, and, honestly, it would be weird. But he can give her a pendant to show her that he loves her and he may one day propose. And her sorority may choose to treat this as an equivalent to a fraternity lavalier.

Originally Posted by RaggedyAnn

And not to be a debbie downer, but what if you break up with your non-Greek boyfriend that lavaliered you? What would you do with the lavalier?

What would you do if you broke up with your greek boyfriend who lavaliered you? What would you do with the lavalier?

[nongreek123]

to clarify....she never ASKED me to lavalier her....i just know that its a big deal to some girls in sororities and i thought it would be special to do...im not in a fraternity but i do recognize the importance from hearing her friends talk about it...

[33girl]

Sorry I called her a ballbreaker, then. You can get her a promise ring or something similar if you want to show a deeper level of commitment and her sorority will still have a ceremony for her.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by nongreek123

Hey, I am not in the greek life but my girlfriend is and she has mentioned lavaliering. If I am not in a fraternity can I lavalier her? Is there any special rules or anything? I do not want to come off as an ass trying to do something that is special to the greek life.

No. You can't. You can try, but you'll probably have at least one member of a fraternity in your face asking you about it.

[FSUZeta]

op, your girlfriend could have a candlepass,white candle, candlelight or whatever her sorority calls it if you got engaged.

[Gusteau]

Thanks for the explanation - I didn't mean to sound like a Bitter Betty, I was just a little bit confused.

[agzg]

A. Girls should not ask to be lavaliered.

B. Lavaliering is for lame-o's.

[RaggedyAnn]

Personally, I would give the lavalier back. I had a Greek boyfriend who was an alum and I was still in college. He gave me a letter shirt to wear-which was his equivalent to a lavalier. When we broke up, I gave it back. What would I want with it?