What do you feel like saying, right now?

[XAntoftheSkyX]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Those chicks aren’t getting dudes attention because they’ll just go to other chicks. And even those chicks, dudes that are smooth talkers can still get them to give in. There’s all kinds of separation movements going on now. Y’all ever heard of Monk Mode?

I've heard of some of them like MGTOW and such but I've always viewed them as a vocal minority and the same way people watch nature documentaries.

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by AGDee

We had a great weekend. I was originally going to drive out Saturday but we had a winter storm warning for Saturday so I drove out there Friday night. I picked up some great desserts from a place called Tony Cannoli and he cooked us steaks. I introduced him to my favorite chocolate wine. We exchanged gifts- I gave him a gift certificate so he could pick out a candlelight concert to attend. I am NOT engaged- he gave me a beautiful lapis lazuli stone ring, a beautiful locket that we agreed we would put a picture of us from one of my sorority formals into, and a really cute candle that smells like vanilla and looks like a tree trunk/branches with "My Name + His Name" carved into it. So cute It was the first time in ages we didn't have to get up early so we talked until 3 am before we finally fell asleep. Saturday, we were meeting his mom and sister in East Lansing for dinner and to see MJ the Musical at Wharton Center. We drove home in an ice storm and that was pretty anxiety inducing. There was icy fog that kept icing over the windshield. We had the heat turned way up and blowing on the windshield and he was using a lot of washer fluid to keep the ice from building up and blocking his vision. We had to stop a couple times to refill his washer fluid. It was nerve wracking.

We didn't get back to his house until almost midnight.I woke up this morning and got ready to leave. I remote started my car because it had snow on it and then the ice from the night before and then more snow. He came to see how I was doing with getting ready to go and to ask if he could help with anything. I asked him to pack my keto snacks from the fridge and told him I remote started the car so it could start to melt. He opened the blinds and showed me that my car was already cleaned off. THAT is what I love about this man. That was so incredibly thoughtful. He's so kind to me. I had to time my drive home between the major snow squalls and thankfully my drive home was uneventful.

Sounds like everything was wonderful, TKEguy wise. But that weather! I don't think I've ever experienced "icy fog" and I've lived in Michigan all my life. Sounds horrible!!!

One of my daughter's sorority sisters, who was from Atlanta, had no idea what the defroster button in her car was for until they had a big snowstorm and GenerallyGreek was schooling her on how to clear off your car. She was also totally unfamiliar with the practice of starting your car first so it warms up and makes the job easier. Also, her sisters were incredibly impressed with the long "scraper on one end/brush on the other" car clearing tool GG had -- "what is this incredibly handy invention with which I was previously unfamiliar?!!"

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

I haven’t heard that one. Where’d you see that at?

It came through my newsfeed on my phone.

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

I've always thought that physical attraction can open a door, but a person's personality and character can make you stay in the room. That's why most of the people I see online screaming about dating politics and what a person should or shouldn't do look like caricatures to me.

This! I couldn’t agree with you more.

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

We met in the US while she was on a homestay. I eventually moved in the same house as her, and we dated after a month or so of being in the same house/friends for a few months.

That’s awesome, Xant.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Those chicks aren’t getting dudes attention because they’ll just go to other chicks. And even those chicks, dudes that are smooth talkers can still get them to give in. There’s all kinds of separation movements going on now. Y’all ever heard of Monk Mode?

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

I've heard of some of them like MGTOW and such but I've always viewed them as a vocal minority and the same way people watch nature documentaries.

Okay, so right now, I am laughing so hard. I’m at work waiting for my car to warm up so I can go home for the day. While I’m still here at work waiting, I saw this and I asked my tech what “Monk Mode” and “MGTOW” mean. She just told me… HILARIOUS! I’m like, is this seriously really a thing? Sheez, what will be the next word defining weird people? lol

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Do you remember all of my stories?? LOL



We had a great weekend. I was originally going to drive out Saturday but we had a winter storm warning for Saturday so I drove out there Friday night. I picked up some great desserts from a place called Tony Cannoli and he cooked us steaks. I introduced him to my favorite chocolate wine. We exchanged gifts- I gave him a gift certificate so he could pick out a candlelight concert to attend. I am NOT engaged- he gave me a beautiful lapis lazuli stone ring, a beautiful locket that we agreed we would put a picture of us from one of my sorority formals into, and a really cute candle that smells like vanilla and looks like a tree trunk/branches with "My Name + His Name" carved into it. So cute It was the first time in ages we didn't have to get up early so we talked until 3 am before we finally fell asleep. Saturday, we were meeting his mom and sister in East Lansing for dinner and to see MJ the Musical at Wharton Center. We drove home in an ice storm and that was pretty anxiety inducing. There was icy fog that kept icing over the windshield. We had the heat turned way up and blowing on the windshield and he was using a lot of washer fluid to keep the ice from building up and blocking his vision. We had to stop a couple times to refill his washer fluid. It was nerve wracking.

We didn't get back to his house until almost midnight.I woke up this morning and got ready to leave. I remote started my car because it had snow on it and then the ice from the night before and then more snow. He came to see how I was doing with getting ready to go and to ask if he could help with anything. I asked him to pack my keto snacks from the fridge and told him I remote started the car so it could start to melt. He opened the blinds and showed me that my car was already cleaned off. THAT is what I love about this man. That was so incredibly thoughtful. He's so kind to me. I had to time my drive home between the major snow squalls and thankfully my drive home was uneventful.

P.S. He also had a dozen roses delivered to me on Wednesday so I could enjoy them since he knew I'd be gone for the weekend with him.

lol
Dee, your stories were the BEST! But the only ones better now are the stories about you and TKE Guy. I’m so happy you two had such a fun and wonderful Valentine’s Day. He is such an amazing guy and I’m so happy the two of you reconnected.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by agzg

Big plans over here, I'm taking over bedtime for my husband

He will always be "live in" in my head

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Would y’all just go on ahead and get married LOL!

This is good stuff, AGDee. I’m glad y’all enjoyed each other this holiday season. Do y’all get together every weekend or during the week too?

It's a 2 hour and 37 minute drive each way (172 miles), so it's just weekends.

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

Sounds like everything was wonderful, TKEguy wise. But that weather! I don't think I've ever experienced "icy fog" and I've lived in Michigan all my life. Sounds horrible!!!

One of my daughter's sorority sisters, who was from Atlanta, had no idea what the defroster button in her car was for until they had a big snowstorm and GenerallyGreek was schooling her on how to clear off your car. She was also totally unfamiliar with the practice of starting your car first so it warms up and makes the job easier. Also, her sisters were incredibly impressed with the long "scraper on one end/brush on the other" car clearing tool GG had -- "what is this incredibly handy invention with which I was previously unfamiliar?!!"

That weather and that drive was unreal. When we stopped to buy gas and more washer fluid, I chipped ice off of his headlights and had to "whap" the windshield wipers against the windshield to get all the ice off of them. There was nothing on the back lights or windows. So weird. My brother had a similar experience when he went to UNC Chapel Hill. I guess when I move to the west side, we'll have to get together!

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

lol
Dee, your stories were the BEST! But the only ones better now are the stories about you and TKE Guy. I’m so happy you two had such a fun and wonderful Valentine’s Day. He is such an amazing guy and I’m so happy the two of you reconnected.

I forgot to mention that I met the son that lives out of state this weekend AND I met TKEGuy's ex-wife. It was an eventful weekend for sure.

[Zach]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

How so?

Both S. Korea and Japan have low birth rates, which decreases workforce numbers, with less consumers. The 4B movement rejects marriage and relationships so it contributes to it. When you have movements like this, dudes start doing it too, which discourages traditional family structures. You seen how wedding companies are going out of business? This is why.

To answer your question about who would cave first if every dude went on Monk Mode, and I’m talking Monk Mode extreme, where dudes ignored them, by just treating them like other dudes, women would lose their minds. They’d definitely cave first. It’d never happen, but I’m just entertaining the hypothetical.

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

I've heard of some of them like MGTOW and such but I've always viewed them as a vocal minority and the same way people watch nature documentaries.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Those chicks aren’t getting dudes attention because they’ll just go to other chicks. And even those chicks, dudes that are smooth talkers can still get them to give in. There’s all kinds of separation movements going on now. Y’all ever heard of Monk Mode?

I’m not part of any movements, but I’m aware of what they all are. If I had to put myself in a category tho, I’d say I was once MGTOW, but now I’m Monk Mode. It’s to the point that chicks really can’t bring anything to the table for me. Anything they have to offer isn’t worth it.

[Phrozen Sands]

I see your point about the drama and headaches some women can bring to relationships, but I like sex too much to throw in the towel LOL!

How do you figure they’d cave first before dudes? I’m just curious to read your perspective now knowing you said eff it and went full on monk mode. The other question I have for you, what if you met a chick who was FOINE, with a nice personality, would you leave your monk mode status?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

I see your point about the drama and headaches some women can bring to relationships, but I like sex too much to throw in the towel LOL!

How do you figure they’d cave first before dudes? I’m just curious to read your perspective now knowing you said eff it and went full on monk mode. The other question I have for you, what if you met a chick who was FOINE, with a nice personality, would you leave your monk mode status?

What he doesn’t seem to understand or may have missed is that men have already “caved” eons ago which is why he chose “monk mode” (whatever the hell that is), and why and how all these other silly movements (centered around resentment) designed to cause separation and confusion have come about.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

What he doesn’t seem to understand or may have missed is that men have already “caved” eons ago which is why he chose “monk mode” (whatever the hell that is), and why and how all these other silly movements (centered around resentment) designed to cause separation and confusion have come about.

LMAO!

What’s your take on it then, PB? I already know what you’re going to say, but because I like your views on relationships, I want to read it.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I forgot to mention that I met the son that lives out of state this weekend AND I met TKEGuy's ex-wife. It was an eventful weekend for sure.

lol
The ex? Well, that’s interesting. So, how’d that go?

And his son? Was he nice and accepting? How many kids does TKE Guy have?

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

lol
The ex? Well, that’s interesting. So, how’d that go?

And his son? Was he nice and accepting? How many kids does TKE Guy have?

She was really nice. She made a point to say that she was really happy that we found each other.

The son was nice. He has two sons. I've spent a little more time with the local one and his girlfriend. One is 28 (almost 29 - the one who lives in Vegas near his mom) and one is 24 (who lives near TKEGuy). My kids are 29 and 31.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by AGDee

He will always be "live in" in my head

lol he’s gotten a couple promotions. 🤣

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I guess when I move to the west side, we'll have to get together!

Definitely!

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AGDee

She was really nice. She made a point to say that she was really happy that we found each other.

The son was nice. He has two sons. I've spent a little more time with the local one and his girlfriend. One is 28 (almost 29 - the one who lives in Vegas near his mom) and one is 24 (who lives near TKEGuy). My kids are 29 and 31.

That’s great, Dee. I’m still amazed at how the two of you reconnected after all those years. I mean, with previous marriages and families within that gap would make that nearly impossible, it seems. Without social media connections, do you think you’d have ever found each other again?