Dating/trusting a frat boy?

[wareagle93]

Yeah, I'd have to agree with some of the others, it doesn't seem like it's officially a relationship.

With regards to being confident in how he conducts himself at parties, it all comes down to trust, especially if/when you two are officially dating. My girlfriend and I are both Freshman at Auburn, we've been dating for almost 2 months. Her sorority and my fraternity have both had swaps/date-nights/functions with organizations other than our own, and I completely trust her when she has a date to her sorority's function (when they have swap with a different Fraternity) and vice-versa. It all comes down to trust.

I'm no Dr. Phil, but if you're confused in any way, try talking to him about it. Also, do you like him? If so, have you considered asking him out/to be your boyfriend, or are you more old-fashioned?

Best of luck!

[peacelovegreek]

Originally Posted by wareagle93

Yeah, I'd have to agree with some of the others, it doesn't seem like it's officially a relationship.

With regards to being confident in how he conducts himself at parties, it all comes down to trust, especially if/when you two are officially dating. My girlfriend and I are both Freshman at Auburn, we've been dating for almost 2 months. Her sorority and my fraternity have both had swaps/date-nights/functions with organizations other than our own, and I completely trust her when she has a date to her sorority's function (when they have swap with a different Fraternity) and vice-versa. It all comes down to trust.

I'm no Dr. Phil, but if you're confused in any way, try talking to him about it. Also, do you like him? If so, have you considered asking him out/to be your boyfriend, or are you more old-fashioned?

Best of luck!

I'm more old-fashioned, like I wait and reading the replies of what people have said, it makes me look back on my behavior and judgement of the situation. What I thought was potentially something was probably just something disguised. I feel like an idiot for even letting myself go down that road. I know I told myself the first day I moved into my dorm that I would never date a frat boy. I feel really ashamed I let myself down. What I thought could be this different guy in fraternity who actually cared, really ended up matching the stereotype that he just wanted me to get in bed with him.

[wareagle93]

Originally Posted by peacelovegreek

I'm more old-fashioned, like I wait and reading the replies of what people have said, it makes me look back on my behavior and judgement of the situation. What I thought was potentially something was probably just something disguised. I feel like an idiot for even letting myself go down that road. I know I told myself the first day I moved into my dorm that I would never date a frat boy. I feel really ashamed I let myself down. What I thought could be this different guy in fraternity who actually cared, really ended up matching the stereotype that he just wanted me to get in bed with him.

You're not an idiot, don't beat yourself up! I'll bet your a really sweet girl, sounds like it's really his loss if he wanted something different. Not all "frat boys" live up to the stereotype of what movies/tv shows such as Glory Daze and Animal House (although, I must admit, there are quite a few I've met...including some in my own Fraternity haha).

I know it's said all the time, but there are plenty of fish in the sea. Everything happens for a reason.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by wareagle93

You're not an idiot, don't beat yourself up! I'll bet your a really sweet girl, sounds like it's really his loss if he wanted something different. Not all "frat boys" live up to the stereotype of what movies/tv shows such as Glory Daze and Animal House (although, I must admit, there are quite a few I've met...including some in my own Fraternity haha).

I know it's said all the time, but there are plenty of fish in the sea. Everything happens for a reason.

Have we ascertained that this guy is never going to call her again because he didn't get to seal the deal? It seems like everyone's painting him to be a dick and I missed the part where she said he never talks to her any more because she sucked face with him.

Although WTF at walking you back to the library (unless there's a bus stop there or something).

[peacelovegreek]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Have we ascertained that this guy is never going to call her again because he didn't get to seal the deal? It seems like everyone's painting him to be a dick and I missed the part where she said he never talks to her any more because she sucked face with him.

Although WTF at walking you back to the library (unless there's a bus stop there or something).

Oh no, I had a study group to go to for a test I had today so he didn't want me walking back alone so he offered to walk me there.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

No one said it was fair. It's just the reality of the situation. People are going to gossip, but you don't need to hand it to them by going up to some guy's room.

And by continuing to bend to it, you continue to perpetuate it. I'm betting you never hear guys telling each other "OMG Justin, don't go up to a girl's room!" Live in the 1950s, whatever.

Originally Posted by peacelovegreek

Oh no, I had a study group to go to for a test I had today so he didn't want me walking back alone so he offered to walk me there.

Oh ok, as long as it was where you had to be. I meant WTF at dumping you at the library when he should have walked you back to your house/apartment/dorm.

[peacelovegreek]

Originally Posted by 33girl

And by continuing to bend to it, you continue to perpetuate it. I'm betting you never hear guys telling each other "OMG Justin, don't go up to a girl's room!" Live in the 1950s, whatever.



Oh ok, as long as it was where you had to be. I meant WTF at dumping you at the library when he should have walked you back to your house/apartment/dorm.

Yeah I was pretty clear when I told him, "Okay I need to leave right NOW!" (I probably sounded like a total nerd for having to be at the library...bio major, what do you expect?)

[peacelovegreek]

Originally Posted by wareagle93

You're not an idiot, don't beat yourself up! I'll bet your a really sweet girl, sounds like it's really his loss if he wanted something different. Not all "frat boys" live up to the stereotype of what movies/tv shows such as Glory Daze and Animal House (although, I must admit, there are quite a few I've met...including some in my own Fraternity haha).

I know it's said all the time, but there are plenty of fish in the sea. Everything happens for a reason.

Well thank you! I just don't get it anymore. A lot of the sisters in my sorority said he's really sweet and nice, but I just don't know where to go from there. I think it's best if I just let it go...I think?