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[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I agree with you, which is why (if you are single) to take advice from someone with more experience than you have. Like I said before that applies to pretty much everything in life. At least I think it does. I just don't think people should jump right into something as serious as marriage without getting advice from someone who's in a healthy relationship/marriage.

Just be aware that there are plenty of people (including some at GC and including some who take the Bible quite seriously) who are in very healthy marriages who would not give you some of the advice you've tauted here. Doesn't make anyone right or wrong, just different, as in so many aspects of life.

Do what works for you, but never assume it's the way that works for everyone else.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Just be aware that there are plenty of people (including some at GC and including some who take the Bible quite seriously) who are in very healthy marriages who would not give you some of the advice you've tauted here. Doesn't make anyone right or wrong, just different, as in so many aspects of life.

Do what works for you, but never assume it's the way that works for everyone else.

I dunno, MC. I think it's important for careers or anything you've never had experience in to talk to successful people in that particular area, if you want to accomplish what they've accomplished.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I dunno, MC. I think it's important for careers or anything you've never had experience in to talk to successful people in that particular area, if you want to accomplish what they've accomplished.

I didn't say it isn't. What I said is don't expect to get the same advice from all those successful people, because people are different, and what works for someone might not work for someone else. There's not always one right answer, as evidence by the successfully married people in this thread who have disagreed with some of the advice you've talked about.

Gather all the opinions you want from all the successful people/couples you want, then make up your own mind about what bits of advice you've gotten might be helpful to you and what bits advice aren't so much.