"Taking someone else's spot"

[shirley1929]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I've seen the above several times in the past few days:

"I turned down my bid because I didn't like this group and didn't want to take someone else's spot."

"If you hate the sorority that much, drop because you are taking someone else's spot."

It kind of got me thinking: is this really true? It seems to be completely discounting the sorority's preference when saying this. If they liked someone else more, they would have put them first and offered them a bid before they offered it to the dissatisfied person.

I think people use this a bunch when it suits their situation. It makes them feel better when they turn down a bid to a group they're not connecting with. And for "us" (the peanut gallery) it's a way to remind the potentially rude NM that there are women out there who love that group.

My guess is with QA's these days, if there are two ladies who are down to their only possible choice, XYZ: (A) ranked XYZ as a 3 at pref, but wasn't high enough on ABC or DEF's lists (her 1 and 2) (B) SIPed XYZ.

...and XYZ only has "1" spot, my guess is that they're both probably going to get it via QA.