The Golden Rule

[SWTXBelle]

In before the lock.

eta - Those who come to GC for information will find many stickies which cover most topics. Those who post honest questions in a spirit of friendship will receive support and answers. Those who post with a sense of entitlement, or self-importance, will not. It's a classic example of you get what you give. Things don't just turn snarky - there is a flashpoint.

[als463]

I have to admit, I can't believe this thread has gone on for so long....wow.

shirley, I have something to add. You talked about how someone (I'm assuming from Texas or who has a chapter of their organization at Texas) was able to pick this young woman out in the crowd during recruitment. Here's my question: Doesn't that concern you on the part of the mother's lack of discretion, in the least? I have no clue who you are talking about or what really happened---you aren't telling us everything---but, if a PNM is that discernable from the rest of the crowd (UT has TONS of PNMs going through), then that's a problem.

Sure, there are crazy people who lurk, sock-puppet, troll, etc. The truth is that you never know who is on here. As Drolefille stated earlier, many of us have people from our Inter/National headquarters on here (though they may not post). I'm sorry to hear about that young woman's recruitment not working out for her but, maybe you should be pointing the finger at mom who gave away so much information that she was easy to spot. If anything, that is a potentially dangerous situation that you are giving up so much information about your child or loved one that strangers on a website can pick them out of a line-up.

So, stop yelling at those of us on GC that don't go looking to ruin someone's recruitment. Instead, start looking at the poor behavior of some of the parents who feel the need to disclose so many details about their child on an internet forum.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by als463

I have to admit, I can't believe this thread has gone on for so long....wow.

I stumbled upon this thread last night and discovered that I was indeed summoned.

[als463]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I stumbled upon this thread last night and discovered that I was indeed summoned.

Oh yes, this is true. I have to thank you, DF, MC, and KS (even though he didn't really say much) for adding to this thread. I also like that Alpha Frog shared.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by als463

Oh yes, this is true. I have to thank you, DF, MC, and KS (even though he didn't really say much) for adding to this thread. I also like that Alpha Frog shared.

Stop using us for your amusement!

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by als463

I have to admit, I can't believe this thread has gone on for so long....wow.

shirley, I have something to add. You talked about how someone (I'm assuming from Texas or who has a chapter of their organization at Texas) was able to pick this young woman out in the crowd during recruitment. Here's my question: Doesn't that concern you on the part of the mother's lack of discretion, in the least? I have no clue who you are talking about or what really happened---you aren't telling us everything---but, if a PNM is that discernable from the rest of the crowd (UT has TONS of PNMs going through), then that's a problem.

Sure, there are crazy people who lurk, sock-puppet, troll, etc. The truth is that you never know who is on here. As Drolefille stated earlier, many of us have people from our Inter/National headquarters on here (though they may not post). I'm sorry to hear about that young woman's recruitment not working out for her but, maybe you should be pointing the finger at mom who gave away so much information that she was easy to spot. If anything, that is a potentially dangerous situation that you are giving up so much information about your child or loved one that strangers on a website can pick them out of a line-up.

So, stop yelling at those of us on GC that don't go looking to ruin someone's recruitment. Instead, start looking at the poor behavior of some of the parents who feel the need to disclose so many details about their child on an internet forum.

Well said. The psycho troll who did this was cruel, but they needed help to find their victim. Don't feed the troll.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Stop talking about us...uh, them....yeah, THEM like they exist. THEY DO NOT EXIST. Excuse me, I have some things, none of which are the least bit secret, to take care of.

Now, I've got different GC SS regiments going through my head. Different colored shirts for different sororities - (i.e., the Kappas would be known as the Blueshirts).

Also, are the PNMs on GC considered the GC Youth? Preparing for the day when they can join their regiment.

I mean, if we're going to go with the Nazi comparisons, let's do it right.

[DGTess]

People get bashed for withdrawing BEFORE PREF while in the same breath bitching about being dropped by the popular chapters.

I have never seen a rushee claim she dropped because she was dropped by the popular chapters.

Now, I haven't read every thread, so I could have missed one or three, but most often she claims she didn't feel a connection with the chapters she ranked low, and GC women to whom she comes for advice make the value judgements.

Okay, I get that you believe it's your right.

Bless your heart.

[shirley1929]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Life lesson:
I consider your tone condescending and it makes you that which you despise. Announcing that you are calm and that you are trying to help can receive a negative response on GC and in real life depending on the topic and who you're talking to.

And maybe that's what the very crux of my point is. Given that it's the written word, tone is VERY subjective. I didn't mean to be condescending, and yet I came off that way to you. You (the collective you of course) can come off that way as well, so we should all just be a little more careful in wording I guess.

Originally Posted by als463

I have to admit, I can't believe this thread has gone on for so long....wow.

Agree. I thought it would be one post and done, but apparently a struck a nerve somewhere?

Originally Posted by als463

shirley, I have something to add. You talked about how someone (I'm assuming from Texas or who has a chapter of their organization at Texas) was able to pick this young woman out in the crowd during recruitment. Here's my question: Doesn't that concern you on the part of the mother's lack of discretion, in the least? I have no clue who you are talking about or what really happened---you aren't telling us everything---but, if a PNM is that discernable from the rest of the crowd (UT has TONS of PNMs going through), then that's a problem.

I actually wasn't the one talking about this, I just mentioned that thread in general. I haven't said anything (to my memory) in that thread, I just referenced it. And yes, it does concern me (as I believe I mentioned in here) that the poster didn't listen, but do I think she then deserves what she got? NO.

Originally Posted by als463

Sure, there are crazy people who lurk, sock-puppet, troll, etc. The truth is that you never know who is on here. As Drolefille stated earlier, many of us have people from our Inter/National headquarters on here (though they may not post). I'm sorry to hear about that young woman's recruitment not working out for her but, maybe you should be pointing the finger at mom who gave away so much information that she was easy to spot. If anything, that is a potentially dangerous situation that you are giving up so much information about your child or loved one that strangers on a website can pick them out of a line-up.

So, you are saying she got what she deserved? I'm still really baffled at that.

Originally Posted by als463

So, stop yelling at those of us on GC that don't go looking to ruin someone's recruitment. Instead, start looking at the poor behavior of some of the parents who feel the need to disclose so many details about their child on an internet forum.

Seriously...where did I yell? Did I call you by name? If it doesn't apply to you, then don't respond to it. Simple. For the tenth time, I'm just asking people to think about how they can be construed before they post.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by shirley1929

Agree. I thought it would be one post and done, but apparently a struck a nerve somewhere?

No, you didn't:

Originally Posted by shirley1929

I’m also not stupid enough to believe that I’m not about to get flamed right now.

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I’m sure there’s more – I’ll be back.

Let the bashing begin in…5…4…3…

If it doesn't apply to you, then don't respond to it. Simple.

You should take your own advice. It's really not that serious.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

Now, I've got different GC SS regiments going through my head. Different colored shirts for different sororities - (i.e., the Kappas would be known as the Blueshirts).

Also, are the PNMs on GC considered the GC Youth? Preparing for the day when they can join their regiment.

I mean, if we're going to go with the Nazi comparisons, let's do it right.

Ummm . . . so what would the Gamma Phis be known as?

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Ummm . . . so what would the Gamma Phis be known as?

Brownshirts is probably a tad much, don't you think? Perhaps the modeshirts? But I don't want to be a shirt color Nazi, so I'll leave it up to you awesome Gamma Phis!

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by shirley1929

And maybe that's what the very crux of my point is. Given that it's the written word, tone is VERY subjective. I didn't mean to be condescending, and yet I came off that way to you. You (the collective you of course) can come off that way as well, so we should all just be a little more careful in wording I guess.

But when that happens to us, we explain ourselves, say sorry and move on. We don't preach to everyone that they all need to be nicer. We're typing on a message board.. misunderstandings happen. Get over it.

I actually wasn't the one talking about this, I just mentioned that thread in general. I haven't said anything (to my memory) in that thread, I just referenced it. And yes, it does concern me (as I believe I mentioned in here) that the poster didn't listen, but do I think she then deserves what she got? NO.

So, you are saying she got what she deserved? I'm still really baffled at that.

Look, you screw up, you pay the consequences. The end.

[shirley1929]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

But when that happens to us, we explain ourselves, say sorry and move on. We don't preach to everyone that they all need to be nicer. We're typing on a message board.. misunderstandings happen. Get over it.

And sometimes you (the collective you, of course) aren't given the opportunity to apologize. The noob just slithers off because they're scared of your tone.

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Look, you screw up, you pay the consequences. The end.

Not gonna lie...that sounded hella creepy to me. So, some poor girl who did absolutely NOTHING wrong except having a mom who is overzealous and shares a little too much has to "pay the consequences"? And you're justifying it?

[aopirose]

Originally Posted by als463

Oh yes, this is true. I have to thank you, DF, MC, and KS (even though he didn't really say much) for adding to this thread. I also like that Alpha Frog shared.

I am hurt that I wasn't included. I think that it is important for people to know that Orange Julius is still around. "Go Orange Julius!"