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Originally Posted by DrPhil
Etiquette is generally a good thing and it helps you to mingle in different environments. However, I recommend caution for these kinds of programs for two reasons:
1. People have differing opinions on some parts of etiquette. Make sure you are teaching business etiquette and aren't just teaching "stereotypically southern etiquette."
2. Make sure you know the difference between table etiquette and "teaching gender." I believe in teaching people how to eat at the table and other basic things but I don't agree with teaching people things like "women have to do this and men have to do that." Some etiquette classes delve into the gender part of it all. Blah.
In other words, don't be surprised if some people are resistant to certain aspects of table etiquette because, beyond the formality of it all, some of it seems ridiculous to some people.
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It might seem ridiculous to you, but in formal situations in the south for instance, the man is supposed to stand up for women, open doors, etc. If he doesn't, it can be perceived as rude. The most important etiquette when it comes to the table is the basics, since that doesn't vary much, but it's important to know what's appropriate in your current setting. If it's not necessary to employ those customs in the current setting then by all means don't, but it's important to be armed with the knowledge for situations that call for it. Especially since for many people this will all come to play at some point in their careers.
It would definitely be worth it to have a seminar, and remind the ladies that these rules are important to understand (at the least, the basics, like you said...use the napkin). I wish my chapter had done etiquette lessons. I was forced into learning that stuff as a kid (which I now appreciate) but could always use a refresher and many girls could have used a basic lesson.
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