Sorority pledge misbehavior

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

However something my mother told me before I joined was that sororities do have some amount of control over your life. You can be sanctioned or expelled for bad/illegal behavior. If Active Amy is drinking underage at her apartment with one other sister who isn't going to tell on her and Nancy New Member is underage, dancing on stage at the bar with a beer in hand, it's going to be Nancy who finds herself in trouble. Fair or not. Discretion is key.

This is true. But it is her doing it in public that makes her a target for discipline, not her new member status.

I would like to know what "partying" entails as nebbymom wrote in her original post. If that's all it is - a faction of the pledge class sitting around someone's apartment and having a beer - or even a faction of girls going out to a party together - IMO the pledge trainer is way out of line for bitching at them to begin with. Is it rude to divide up like that? Yes. Does it happen all the time (especially at a school w/ ginormous pledge classes)? Yes.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by 33girl

This is true. But it is her doing it in public that makes her a target for discipline, not her new member status.

I would like to know what "partying" entails as nebbymom wrote in her original post. If that's all it is - a faction of the pledge class sitting around someone's apartment and having a beer - or even a faction of girls going out to a party together - IMO the pledge trainer is way out of line for bitching at them to begin with. Is it rude to divide up like that? Yes. Does it happen all the time (especially at a school w/ ginormous pledge classes)? Yes.

I'm willing to bet it's some ridiculous hard partying. I can believe that, because it's so easy to get wrapped up in partying that first semester of college and carry it too far. There's a difference between everyone going out to a party and having a few beers and girls going out, getting trashed, and getting into ridiculous shenanigans.

[greekalum]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I'm willing to bet it's some ridiculous hard partying. I can believe that, because it's so easy to get wrapped up in partying that first semester of college and carry it too far. There's a difference between everyone going out to a party and having a few beers and girls going out, getting trashed, and getting into ridiculous shenanigans.

And considering one university had 8 sorority new members hospitalized their first night out this year, I think it's worth taking seriously.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Mommy only knows what "DD" told her and we know daughters NEVER stretch the truth with their helis. Mommy is just pissed she has no control of the situation. Personally it sounds to me that DD is not the most popular member of the pledge class and isn't getting invited to things because she has a stick up her ass. And that has her upset.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Mommy only knows what "DD" told her and we know daughters NEVER stretch the truth with their helis. Mommy is just pissed she has no control of the situation. Personally it sounds to me that DD is not the most popular member of the pledge class and isn't getting invited to things because she has a stick up her ass. And that has her upset.

That's a whole lot of assumption based on little information.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

That's a whole lot of assumption based on little information.

Which is what mommy is doing based on the little information her daughter is giving her.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Which is what mommy is doing based on the little information her daughter is giving her.

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[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by 33girl

This is true. But it is her doing it in public that makes her a target for discipline, not her new member status.

I would like to know what "partying" entails as nebbymom wrote in her original post. If that's all it is - a faction of the pledge class sitting around someone's apartment and having a beer - or even a faction of girls going out to a party together - IMO the pledge trainer is way out of line for bitching at them to begin with. Is it rude to divide up like that? Yes. Does it happen all the time (especially at a school w/ ginormous pledge classes)? Yes.

It can happen with small pledge classes, too.

Then again, I pledged "old school" when you "rise together, you fall together" was standard.

Originally Posted by AzTheta

Just read the entire thread. My take:

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3) Chapter Business, folks. Chapter Business. Trust the process. It works.

4) Let Go, OP, Let Go. Your daughter's experience is tuition in the School of Life.

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