Sorority pledge misbehavior

[Splash]

Originally Posted by kddani

Daughter can get a job like the gazillion other collegiate sorority members who pay their own dues (past and present).

I meant daughter has no say about her mom paying, not whether she can find a way to finance herself. She can do whatever she wants to raise the money herself.

I'm surprised that you guys seem so offended by the asking to de-pledge other girls. Obviously she can't do that, so I don't see why anyone would be bothered by that. Besides, I think it's obvious that she's overall more concerned about her daughter's happiness rather than the other pledges. I think it's ridiculous if you think that daughter's happiness is not the root of all of this. Her daughter is her business.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Splash

I meant daughter has no say about her mom paying, not whether she can find a way to finance herself. She can do whatever she wants to raise the money herself.

I'm surprised that you guys seem so offended by the asking to de-pledge other girls. Obviously she can't do that, so I don't see why anyone would be bothered by that. Besides, I think it's obvious that she's overall more concerned about her daughter's happiness rather than the other pledges. I think it's ridiculous if you think that daughter's happiness is not the root of all of this. Her daughter is her business.

Well maybe her daughter needs to take the stick out of her ass.

Seriously, if she's going to whine to mom every time someone has a party without her she's going to have a really miserable life.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Splash

I meant daughter has no say about her mom paying, not whether she can find a way to finance herself. She can do whatever she wants to raise the money herself.

I'm surprised that you guys seem so offended by the asking to de-pledge other girls. Obviously she can't do that, so I don't see why anyone would be bothered by that. Besides, I think it's obvious that she's overall more concerned about her daughter's happiness rather than the other pledges. I think it's ridiculous if you think that daughter's happiness is not the root of all of this. Her daughter is her business.

I think it's a matter of "my daughter shouldn't be punished for something that someone else did".

It happens all the time. In elementary school, someone throws a spitball, but the whole class gets in trouble. On sports teams, someone screws up a play, and the whole team has to do laps. In high school, three people steal a copy of the test and the entire class has to re-take it. You work in a restaurant where you pool tips (all tips are collected and divided), and one sucky worker who gets rotten tips ends up reducing each person's portion.

It happens everywhere. There's a reason and a purpose. Can you - Splash or OP - not see that?

[agzg]

Originally Posted by Splash

I'm surprised that you guys seem so offended by the asking to de-pledge other girls. Obviously she can't do that, so I don't see why anyone would be bothered by that. Besides, I think it's obvious that she's overall more concerned about her daughter's happiness rather than the other pledges. I think it's ridiculous if you think that daughter's happiness is not the root of all of this. Her daughter is her business.

How the sorority operates is none of her business. Asking online whether the chapter can de-pledge the troublemakers is NONE OF HER BUSINESS. Furthermore, her daughter is an adult and should be making these decisions on her own. Meaning, it's NONE OF HER BUSINESS! I don't understand why you keep insisting that it is.