To Wait or Not To Wait: That is the Question

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by agzg

Doesn't that take some of the fun out of winning at life? I mean... maybe it's just my situation but I think Live-in would be pretty disappointed if he couldn't buy his future wife her engagement ring. But, he also loves to get someone "the perfect gift."

Plus, that's a gift from his heart to mine. It's not all about the size or cut of the diamond, or the type of metal used. I'd rather not buy myself a gift from his heart.

Some people have family diamonds, and I get that. But to just have one that you already want takes the "gift for you that I picked out" factor out of it. Makes it more like an "add man and stir" kind of situation. I don't want that.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Some people have family diamonds, and I get that. But to just have one that you already want takes the "gift for you that I picked out" factor out of it. Makes it more like an "add man and stir" kind of situation. I don't want that.

I have family diamonds but those mean something different to me - they mean my relationship with my mom and her relationship with hers - they don't mean my relationship with live-in.

I guess family diamonds are alright but I don't think it's right for me. But I'd be happy with a piece of glass in some tin foil.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

LOL. I agree, although I don't believe in having the ring you want. LOL.

But...but how can I WAL if I don't liiiiiike iiiiiittt???

Originally Posted by jdrama

I would say yes to a $50 ring from the pawn shop if it's the right man.

I used to joke that I'd say yes to a ring pop. A ring pop in my favorite flavor would mean more than some gaudy 10-carat ring that is more him showing off than looking for something I'd like.

But if I could get to choose....

[jdrama]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

But...but how can I WAL if I don't liiiiiike iiiiiittt???


I used to joke that I'd say yes to a ring pop. A ring pop in my favorite flavor would mean more than some gaudy 10-carat ring that is more him showing off than looking for something I'd like.

But if I could get to choose....

I don't even know what kind of right I'd want. I don't like rings. I had a purity ring and that's the longest ring I wore.

I don't want to pick my own ring out. I want the ring and chose because I would want to ask 'Why did you choose this ring?' and I want the whole reasoning.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Some people have family diamonds, and I get that. But to just have one that you already want takes the "gift for you that I picked out" factor out of it. Makes it more like an "add man and stir" kind of situation. I don't want that.

Also, your style can change SO much. What you liked at 22 may be completely different from what you want at 29, even if money's not an issue. I think about my jewelry tastes at 22 and shudder!