If Hazing is Wrong, what's a better alternative?

Originally Posted by Ivy173

My sorority claims not to haze. It definitely does not do anything hardcore like beating up pledges or forced alcohol consumption, but the actives are encouraged to yell at the pledges throughout the initiation week, telling them they're the worst pledge class ever, we can't believe they made it this far, they embarass us, etc. Pledges have to wear different costumes throughout the week, meant to be embarassing, and they have to sing certain songs on demand. And thorughout the whole pledge period we had demerits and merits--we were told you would have to work off the demerits once you became a sister, and a lot of us got thousands of demerits from sisters when they were drunk. One girl in my class dropped based completely off how many demerits she got. We were warned working them off would be a pain, and she had over 50 000. We found out after we initiated they didn't mean anything.
I'm a pretty new sister and I really disagreed with the process, but we were told it was to show our determination and loyalty to our group. Although I do have a stronger bond with my class, I felt way more loyal to the sorority as a whole before the initiation week. I think hazing can bring the pledges together but causes division within the sorority. There are sisters my class absolutely hate and avoid as much as possible based on their behaviour during our initiation.

And what organization calls you a member?